(Closed) Do people ask you how much your Ring Cost ? Do you tell them ?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 92
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’ve had someone ask me and I just laughed and said ” Too much!” If my best friend asked I’d tell her, but otherwise it’s NUNYA!

Post # 93
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yes and in a rude way!  One of his friends said “SO, what did that big rock you got put my boy back?”  I replyed with “I never asked him but it sure says he wants to be my boy now…jealous?”  I said it rude but he replayed with “yeah!”  THen we laughed and moved on about it.  I think if a girl asked me I would say “why you need money and looking to steal it?” HAHA Nah just kidding, I would say “why are you asking me I did not pay for it and never cared to even ask that myself.”  

Post # 94
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

No one has ever asked me and I don’t even know how much it cost.

Post # 95
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I had a classmate that I really didn’t care for ask how much my ring was. 

I think she was being snarky because she had just gotten engaged and was showing off her massive ring and kept saying “I can’t beleive my fiance spent $X on my ring!  I’m so lucky!”  When she asked me I said “I don’t know, how old are you really, because you look great after that last Botox treatment,” and that shut her up immediately.

Post # 96
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I find it tacky when people ask how much you spent. My sister, who is about 2 yrs older than me asked me about mine. We’re not the closest of sisters (and by this I mean we loathe one another), so I just blinked at her and said, “How much did yours cost?”. Without batting an eye she said $7000 (Which I found pricey for a diamond that is not eye-clean, but she loves it and that’s what matters!). She has a 1ct centerstone with .25’s on either side. I really didn’t even think she would answer, I thought she would get that I was insulted.

I have a moissanite ering, and while I LOVE it, my family would look at is as something cheap and tacky if I told them it wasn’t a real diamond. I have a 1.05ct moissy centerstone with .47cts tw of smaller natural diamond sidestones.

When she asked again how much he paid, I told her, “less than you”. She got the hint and dropped it 🙂

Post # 97
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’ve only had one woman ask me that question.  I was so taken aback that I simply stared at her for a moment hoping that the awkward silence would make her uncomfortable but it didnt deter her.  SHe asked again at which point I responded “Far too much but my darling Fiance thinks I’m worth every penny.” with a stupid grin on my face.  Only after she walked away did I come up with a snarky, mildly inappropriate response that surely would have shamed her for asking sucha rude question of a complete stranger.

Now before you think I’m a snob or rude, I don’t mind that kind of question if someone is asking in order to try to get a good deal.  This is usually followed up with a question about where said ring was purchased.  It makes me a little uncomfortable but i understand why someone might be asking…being as how they are in the middle of the wedding planning process.  What irks me the most is when someone (usually a slight aquaintence or total stranger) asks its cost they was they would ask the cost of your shoes or hangbag.  That is nobodies business and will more than likely result in me saying something slightly snarky or crude in response.  Believe me, I’ve tried to just smile/nod, or say I don’t really know or talk about those things, but it has never worked for me.  I was raised to not talk about money~that it is a big no-no.  

Post # 98
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve only been asked once and that was buy my brother. In all fairness we were actually just leaving the jewelry store where I was showing him the styles his girlfriend likes because he’s getting ready to propose. It wasn’t malicious as I was ragging him about how he shouldn’t complain about spending a couple thousand on a really nice setting since he’s getting a family diamond that wont cost him anything. We’re close though so it was all good natured.

FWIW I did have a former boss ask me how much mney Fiance made. I anwered with “enough” and had to repeat that several times until he dropped it because he wouldn’t quit asking.

Post # 99
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Bumble bee

Nope. It’s bad form to ask anyways. When someone asks, I just say “well you know since Fiance is in the jewelry industry, he got it at cost price…” I don’t think I would feel comfortable with everyone knowing the price, it’s none of their beez-wax!

Post # 100
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

No one has ever asked me, if they ever did I would tell them I am not comfortable telling them that and/or it’s none of their business.

Post # 100
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I was kind of asked that by a female acquaintance from a backhanded comment like “so that probably costed him just under 5k?”. Because I knew she gets attacked by the green eyed monster easily and i was feeling mean (her partner doesn’t do as well as mine financially)- I just said casually “oh no. Only three times that amount”, glanced at her fingers and changed the topic. 

Other than that only my direct family and 2 of my closest friends know how much he has spent and that was because we were talking about the budget before we bought the ring together.

 

Post # 101
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Wow! I’m so surprised by the overwhelming response that asking is a complete NO-NO! I’ve been asked before by close friends and family and had no issues with telling them and vice versa. But we’re type of people who are all in each other’s business though lol

I never thought of it as being faux pax… I would only ever ask people I thought were comfortable with sharing though but now I think I should keep my curiosity to myself. Wouldn’t ever want to be considered rude! Eeek.

Post # 102
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I cannot believe people ask. It strikes me as an intrusion of privacy and something that should be between the couple and absolutely no one else. Would you tell people what you paid for your house, or what your rent is? How much money you have in your bank account?

I would answer with a questioning look (the eyebrow raised) and nothing else.

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