Post # 1
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Helper bee
So I’m on a pretty strict diet. My first alterations appointment is in a bit under 3 weeks and I have a goal weight I want to hit.
Why do people feel it necessary to comment on what I’m eating? One of my co-workers said the other day “OH look at you and your broccoli” (as she was shoving a donut hole in her face). Or we had a meeting during lunch and someone asked (jokingly) why my boss didn’t supply lunch. He then went “Oh Susie wouldn’t eat it anyway”. REALLY??
I know it’s only going to get harder as the holiday season approaches. Why do people feel the need to make comments? I’m sick of justifying why I want to eat healthy. Okay I don’t want to – but I have to. I’m getting married and have a goal weight to reach.
Anyone else run into this?
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
@coolbride125: Yes, this is pretty typical. I think some may be a little jealous that you’re being healthy or some may want to bring you down (consciously or not) because misery loves company. I went out to lunch with a friend the other day “Oh…you’re having a SALAD? That’s it?… Please have a burger, like me!” It’s like they try to guilt you into it because they feel bad about their own decisions and don’t want to feel alone.
You should seek out healthy friends and family to keep you focused.
I’m also trying to lose weight on a strict diet and my wedding is also on 2.16.13 🙂
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
YES! Almost exact same words have come out of my boss’s mouth – “Look at your and your carrots. So healthy.”
Well excuuuuse me for trying to eat well.
Post # 5
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Helper bee
I am vegan, so yes, everyone feels like they are entitled to comment on my eating. Sometimes picking fights about the politics of it all, or how I must never feel full, or how gross my food looks. Just let me eat my curried tofu in peace!
Post # 6
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Busy bee
@coolbride125: My friend does it whenever we go out to eat, but I think she does it to try and make me feel better about myself like she is trying to say you can splurge and eat the burger instead of that salad because you already look good! It can get annoying because I don’t see why people need to comment on what I’m eating lol
Just take it as a compliment that they wish they had your willpower! 🙂
Post # 7
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Honey bee
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@coolbride125: Not normally, BUT I used to work in the mall so on breaks had terrible mall food. I started buying salads instead and one day sitting in the wide open food court one of the mall janitors (a woman) walked by and said “You’re doing a good job eating that salad!” I should also add I’m not stick-figure thin and it seemed like she was trying to encourage me because I should be on a diet… le fat girl sigh.
Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
@coolbride125: It’s kinda amsuing… if I happen to eat healthy, people comment, but when I eat unhealthy they comment too!! I try to go for some sort of balance. I think you just need to let their comments roll off your back. Some people have nothing better to do/say.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
Darling Husband comments a lot on what I eat right now. I’ve lost weight and he is constantly asking me when I am going to eat “real” food. I know he just doesn’t want me to lose too much weight, which I haven’t, but I hate having someone comment on what I eat. Darling Husband made a comment when I had a bit of ice cream after work one day before dinner and I told him I was 28 and had earned the right to eat dessert first if I pleased.
It was awful when I was pregnant. I tried not to “eat for 2” and a lot of coworkers kept pushing food on me since “it’s the only time you can eat whatever you want”. I tried to explain that every calorie I ate, I’d have to lose later, but eventually just smiled and nodded. As it was it took me a long time to lose the baby weight. DS was 1 year old when I reached my pre-pregnancy weight and is 19 months old now, when I’m at my goal weight.
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
People always tend to this especially when they know someone is dieting. Why? To make them feel better about themselves. The person shoving a doughnut in their face feels guilty eating that while you’re eating healthy. So that person then makes a comment to try and make you feel bad, therefore making themself feel better.
Post # 11
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Worker bee
Ugh. My Future Mother-In-Law comments on my eating habits ALL THE TIME. We went to a brunch/baby shower last week, and both she and my FBIL’s girlfriend were giving me a ton of attitude for only having one plate of food + fruit for desert. Eating is a HUGE part of their culture, which I understand, but still.. I have a wedding dress to fit into in 6 months!
Post # 12
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Helper bee
@S2013: YAY!! We are date twins!! 🙂
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
It was constant at first (I’m vegan/plant-based), but now that I’ve got almost half a year under my belt of consistent healthy eating, I don’t get as many comments from people I know. Now, when I meet someone new, the comments start again, but like PPs said, it’s them trying to feel better about their choices by making yours seem extreme.
Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
@canarydiamond: Same. It doesn’t happen all the time, but it does happen whether it’s healthy food or junk. I used to eat apple slices every day for my morning snack, and our sales manager noticed after like three weeks and commented on how healthy I was eating lmao.
Fiance also comments, but only because he worries that I don’t get enough to eat. I’m pretty picky and haven’t had much of an appetite lately, so I really don’t eat a whole lot.
Post # 15
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Worker bee
Just say back to them ‘oh stuffing your face with another donut/cookie/burger/fries’ whenever they say anything, that should shut them up…
Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Yes all the time, I have an addiction to junk food, and my sister makes rude/judgemental comments about my weight, and what I am eating ALL the time. ‘How much do you weigh, etc etc’ Frankly it’s none of her business.
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