Post # 1
I’m doing my ceremony and reception in the center of a major city, and some of our guests don’t seem very happy about coming here. They don’t like the hotels nearby, and have expressed concern about getting from the ceremony to the reception. The two events are about a half-mile apart. Neither place has free parking, but both have lots nearby and the rates are not too excessive (under $10). Other options are walking or taking a cab, which is less than $5. We got a block at a hotel nearby, which is a reasonable price considering the location, and I figured that if people were looking for a lower-cost option, they would want to find something on their own in a different location. Realistically, would you be annoyed as a guest about doing this? It’s good for people who won’t be driving, because everything is close by. I know that some people are not able to walk that distance, but is it rude to expect people to take a cab?
Post # 3
is there any way that you could get a shuttle or car service for them or buy a parking pass for your guests? i don’t think it is the urban setting, but rather the amount of money they are spending to be a part of your day….
Post # 4
Are these out of town guests? Or far-flung suburbanites who don’t come into the city? I have been to a few weddings in a major city and always been fine, as have the other guests, if that’s what they’re used to. I do remember how I got funny looks when I moved to Ohio and would ask people about parking at whatever restaurant.
If your wedding is on 9/12, don’t worry about this now!! See if you can designate someone to help people gather into groups to split cabs. That’s probably easiest!
Post # 5
We could get a shuttle, but it’s so much money compared to the costs of taking cabs. Like, more than 10 times the cost. I know it’s hard to be asked to spend a lot of money on someone’s wedding, but it also would seem strange to me to pay upwards of $500 (at minimum) for a 5 minute bus ride over 5 blocks.
Post # 6
Cities have more options for hotels than small towns! Regarding the transportation, a half mile walk (what, like four blocks?) in September may be nice. I think your guests are complaining too much; they’d probably make an issue out of any location.
Post # 7
i agree with ETwedding, i.e. your guests complaining too much. maybe it’s just me, but (barring nudity and any kind of illegal acts), i usually go along with whatever the couple chooses in regards to their wedding. urban. country. beach. done. done. and done. no complaints. remember, while it’s important to take your guests’ comforts into consideration, you can’t please all of the people all of the time.
Post # 8
Oh man, I feel you – we’re totally getting some of this, and Minneapolis isn’t even that large of a city. Our stuff isn’t even downtown! We have a shuttle for people at the hotel to go everywhere! Parking is free at BOTH the ceremony and reception and we are STILL getting anxious guests. Some people just don’t like going into cities. My FI’s family is all from rural WI and they’re complaining (in a really nice way) about different t hings almost every time I see them. I feel bad about it, but we’ve lived here for years, we love it, and we wanted to have our wedding here – not at his hometown church in the middle of nowhere.
Anyway. I just wanted to reiterate that no matter what, some people will just be a little antsy about it and find something to be unhappy about. It’s too bad that those people won’t just stay home if they hate the idea of an urban area so much 🙂
Post # 9
I love urban weddings. There is something so chic about them. Some guests may feel intimidated by a big city, I know I feel more stressed out going to a new place when it is a big city, it feels like there are more ways to get lost. And I live in Los Angeles. Almost all of that stress is transportantion related; driving, parking, getting from the airport. I agree that if you can find ways to facilitate getting people from one place to another, they might be more comfortable. Bu that isn’t really your responsibility, and people will manage.
Post # 10
I’ll comment as a girl that has spent her life in small town midwest America so far! I think people that aren’t used to big cities find it exhausting because they aren’t used to that sort of lifestyle. I find it stressful driving in metro areas, finding places and where to park, I feel uncomfortable if the hotel is really nice, ect. Public transportation in my smaller city is much different than a metro area. I’ve never hailed a cab..you don’t take cabs here…you drive yourself (because pub. transit isn’t too great) or take the bus when you can (which is nice and clean). I might find that slightly intimidating.They might worry about safety after dark in an unfamiliar place.
I’m just guessing, but that’s what I imagine they are thinking about. I don’t think you have to go out of your way to accomodate your out of town guests. If I really had a problem with the location I probably just wouldn’t go and keep it to myself.
Also, costs in the city, even if they seem reasonable to you, seem really high often to me because I’m accustomed to much lower cost of living. That might be an issue.
Post # 11
I know my partner is pretty freaked out by big cities. He gets stressed even driving through San Francisco and always marvels at the way I navigate cities. If your guests aren’t from a city, I can see them feeling very uncomfortable… especially if they are driving in. You know how it is looking for a parking spot downtown. It can be a frazzling experience.
Do the hotels they are staying at have downtown shuttles? Is there a way you can take advantage of that?
Post # 12
What about including parking tickets for guests who rsvp? A friend of mine is doign this and it’s very gracoius
That being said…i’ve traveled to a lot of big cities and parking for DINNER is a normal occurance. Whatever, not a dealbreaker. They’re being crabby
Could you negotiate for a “lot rate” perhaps?
Post # 13
I love urban weddings because they are usually closer to an airport, and have lots of things to do nearby, but I can see how some people might feel overwhelmed if they are not city people. Some of my older relatives would get nervous having to take a cab, or just trying to find their way around a big city that they aren’t familiar with. The best thing you can do is try to provide them with the most complete information you can, and when the wedding comes they will discover it wasn’t as hard as they thought.
Post # 14
I want to clarify my suggestion because I know how awkward it is to hail a cab, talk to the driver, or even worry about getting into one, much less doing all that in wedding clothes! I also know this is about the last thing you want to hear people griping about when you’re 2 weeks out.
If you have someone to help guests who want to take cabs hail the cab and put 3-4 people in each, that will help both with splitting the cost and making what to do more evident. People who aren’t used to riding in cabs will feel more comfortable, and your helper can tell the driver where to drop them.
If it’s 5 blocks, that can be a great stroll for some people or a real bear for others who can’t walk as well or aren’t familiar with the area, don’t feel safe, etc.
In your situation, I’d be most concerned about helping guests move from ceremony to reception rather than worrying about them coming into the city and parking in the first place. If you focus your efforts on that, you can decide whether you’re able to swing some cash to cover their cab fare.
@ Mrs.DG – I got in an airport shuttle at a downtown hotel in Philly and it ended up costing $22. The fare wasn’t posted – yikes, an unpleasant surprise!
Post # 15
I am having my wedding smack in the middle of downtown dallas. I am having all cars valet for the guest who are driving. For the guests staying at the nearby hotel, I am having a shuttle bring them over. So that kind of takes care of everything. 🙂
Post # 16
I live in the middle of a big city and I still don’t particularly like urban weddings. They don’t make me nervous or stressed out, it’s just that I think most cities are kind of ugly…so completely personal preference. It would definitely freak my parents out, though, since they live in the middle of nowhere and hate driving into the city even to see me. They always stay at a hotel in the ‘burbs, and if they come to my place I have to go out there, meet them, and drive them in. I don’t think it would stop them from attending a city wedding but they definitely wouldn’t like doing it.
My wedding is about 1/2 hour outside the city, and they made me get a room block in the suburbs so they wouldn’t have to come to the city at all. The rest of the fam is staying out there, too. Sigh.