Post # 1
I decided to hyphenate my name upon getting married, and I am happy with my decision, but…
I feel like everywhere I go, everyone either goes by my maiden name or my married name.
Even though I sign letters, checks, etc. with my hyphenated name, everyone assumes I either took my husband’s name completely or kept my maiden name.
What do you do in this situation? Anyone else been there? I’m wondering if it would just be easier to go ahead and change it to his if no one is going to use my right name anyways…
Post # 3
no. They think my 1st last name is my middle name.
(Not married: the hyphenated name was curtesy of my parents)
Post # 4
People always try to call me by the full name, and I usually correct them. I use my maiden name at work, but if I’m doing anything out in the community I try to remember to use my married name. The full hyphenated name is too long for me to want to use it all the time. But I know other people that go by both and people get it right eventually.
Post # 5
@Miss OBG: I also use my maiden name at work. Perhaps that’s why people get confused?
What do you mean it’s too long for you to use it all the time? So sometimes you don’t?
Post # 6
My hyphenated last name is a mix of German and Palestinian.
Nobody can pronounce it OR spell it.
When i get married again it will be a single last name, but equally hard for people. GAH.
Post # 7
My first husband had a hyphenated last name which I took when we got married. It is a British name that goes back a few hundred years and there are people with this name all over the world. However, with the exception of the city we lived in at the time NO ONE could get it right. The DMV said they couldn’t do a hyphen on my drivers license so it looked like I had two last names and my debit/credit cards had either no space between the two names or only one of the names. It was a nightmare when cashiers would insist that the names having to match exactly. Plus, when I moved away from that city everyone assumed that the first name was my maiden name. Ugh…so glad to be rid of him and his name.
Post # 8
@SandyDollHair: I had a friend whose maiden name was 4 syllables and her husbands name was also 4 syllables. She briefly considered hyphenating, but realized that it was just too much.