Post # 1
I keep getting emails in which I am addressed as my married name, which is my husband’s last name now.
Yet I get a lot of emails, from people, referring to me as “Miss” or “Ms”.
Is that normal? Is it b/c I’m still much younger than my coworkers? I don’t get why they feel the need to put that in front of my name at all, but it’s not like I have a PhD or anything.
It’s not a big deal, but every time I see “Miss” I go “wait a minute, I’m married!” and then I remember I’m not a teacher, lol.
Post # 3
well, i live in the wacky south, where people say Miss Melissa, regardless of marital status, age, you name it. It sounds to me like they’re addressing a toddler when people say it. hehe
As for miss vs mrs lastname, I think that if you look young and pretty, you will get more Miss. Not that that’s right, but I think it’s true. No one calls me Miss or Mrs at all, ever, so I can’t relate personally.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
People are weird. When I was a teacher, I got Mrs. all the time (I was 23 and single, and I’m pretty sure I didn’t look that old?). I don’t think it means much other than that… people are weird!
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
No one ever refers to me by title at work! It’s always first names here.
Keep in mind that Ms. is supposed to be the feminine equiv of Mr., so it could signify a married or an unmarried woman.
Post # 6
i think in some situations people will call everyone miss or mrs just out of habbit. i know i never knew if my teachers were married, like miss spaniel said, so i’d always call them mrs. and as a girl scout leader, we’re always miss. even my friend’s mom, who’s obviously a mrs, is miss when in girl scouts.
Post # 7
I remember learning in school the difference between Miss, Mrs and Ms. I’m wondering if people have just forgotten the meanings because I think we live is a much less formal society now. I still get called Miss and Ms all the time (although, I’ve only been married four months).
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
I always address women as Ms. in business situations because I never know if they’re married or not.
No one calls me Miss out in public. They all call me maam, which pisses me off. I’m 23! Not even my mom likes being called maam, and she’s 50+.
Edit: Adding on what Mouse said, Ms. was created by feminists — women were upset they had two titles to distinguish as married or single but men only had one. Ms. is the answer to that.
Post # 9
Oooo that makes sense. StL is still kinda traditional but I’m totally not used to it!
I just don’t see why referring to me as “my colleague, Miss EJS” versus “my colleague, EJS” is necessary. It’s not like I refer to my colleagues as “Mr. Smith”
People used to call me “miss” all the time when I was a waitress, but I don’t exactly work at an Applebees anymore, lol.
Post # 10
@ejs – after the Miss EJS intro, you could always immediately extend your hand for a handshake and while doing so, encourage them to call you by your first name. Do it enough and you can probably curb the Miss talk. I think you may find this b/c you’re in a more male dominated workplace, no? maybe they feel it’s more respectful for females?
Post # 11
Well I am a teacher and I still get Mrs. ALL the time even though I’m not there yet…I think people just don’t pay a lot of attention to details.
Post # 12
Ms. covers both married & unmarried women, Mrs. is normally what people use for married women but if they’re not sure then that’s why there’s Ms. to cover both aspects.
But, some people may still think of you as a young woman & just don’t think twice, so that’s why they put “Miss”
Post # 13
That is why I prefer, for myself and in addressing other people, Ms. I am not changing my name, so I assume people won’t really start using Mrs., which would be awesome.
Post # 14
I’m 23 and I hate Ma’am. I don’t mind Miss or Mrs. put Ma’am? No!
Post # 15
Haha a funny note on the hated ma’am: I get ma’am-ed all the time, and I too am 23 and look it. So, I’ve taken to calling most older women (who normally get ma’am-ed) MISS. That way, they feel a thousand times better. Paying it forward and hoping I’ll get called Miss some time by a stranger in the grocery store rather than the dreaded ma’am!