Post # 1
Disclaimer: I don’t have anything against anyone choosing to do this or not choosing to do this, just merely curious if people still do this to a great extent.
Someone close to me was recently talking about how she really likes the color blue but couldn’t have a baby shower with a blue theme because the OB-GYN told her that her child was going to be a girl. I told her she could still have a blue theme even if it’s a girl but she didn’t seem sold on it. This surprised me as she is in her mid-twenties and I was under the impression that people are growing out of gender specific colors, clothes, and toys.
I also noticed many people around me and online doing this and it made me wonder if most bees and/or their circle still do this as I’ve always found most bees to be very gender neutral. Or is it just that the gender neutral bees are more outspoken here?
ETA – Why are certain colors entitled to certain genders? Why are colors considered masculine or feminine?? Who came up with the rules to determine what colors should be worn by whom??
Post # 2
I was team yellow with both my kids (1 boy, 1 girl) my daughter is always in her brothers hand me downs and wears lots of blue in general. It’s a favourite colour of mine.
She can totally have a blue theme chillbee29 :
Post # 3
Twizbe : That’s what I told her too but she doesn’t seem to want to do that! She said she HAS to do a pink theme now.
Post # 3
I honestly prefer colors like blues, reds, purples so for my son I did mostly stick with the traditional colors. Now that i’m having a girl, she’s getting things of all varieties. Blues, pinks, purples, greens. She’s got a bunch of blue blankets. I’m not a huge fan of pink.
For the most part I’d say my circle is still pretty “pink for girls, blue for boys” but it’s not as rigid as it used to be if that makes sense?
Post # 5
She could do a more blue floral theme. Add in some purples and pinks to make it lots more feminine chillbee29 :
Post # 6
I always thought royal blue was a very masculine color but dusty blue, paired with subtle mauve tones, would be incredibly feminine in my opinion!
Post # 7
chillbee29 : I do agree that this is an odd conversation to still be having. Many of my friends still do the typical color for their kids (~30s).
Honestly, when it comes to the shower, it can be whatever damn color you want. The baby isn’t here yet; they will never know. It’s a party with you and your friends. No one should care about that.
As far as clothes and items, I think it’s just something we as a society are stuck on. It’s a continuous mentality that is handed down. I’m not a super “go-neutral” person, but I think it’s ridiculous that kids have to have certain colors pushed on them. I loved blue as a kid. A lot of my items are red lately (which I can’t really explain since it’s not my favorite).
That being said, I do think that stores are trying to (and have been for a while) go toward the neutral palate. But, I guess that doesn’t address the question of “why can’t girls have lots of blue?” It just masks the conversation.
Post # 8
It’s probably very similar to The Reason why it’s traditional for a bride to wear white. It’s tradition. Blue for boy, pink for girl. Now that’s not to say you can’t do blue for girl, just like a woman can wear something other than white for her wedding. It’s just more common to the traditional colors.
Post # 9
I do both. To me, the pink/blue thing is just symbolic of whether or not the baby is male or female. So, in my circle, people often do things like wear pink or blue to a baby shower to ‘vote’ for what they think the baby will be. My husband and I put pink frosting in cupcakes for our parents when we told them we found out our baby was female.
However, my daughter wears all colors of clothes. Her bedroom is painted tan with green decor. We let her pick whatever colors of toys she wants. Her favorite colors are usually yellow and blue but it changes constantly.
My baby shower had a lot of pink decor. I didn’t pick the decor; my SIL hosted the shower. It was very lovely. I would have loved it just as much if it was any other color. The only drawback to blue decor is that some people might be confused and ask if she is having a boy. But anyone can easily say, “I am having a girl and I just love the color blue!” If the host wants to avoid that situation, they could just put up a blue sign that says “welcome baby girl” or something.
Post # 10
Like most great “traditions” it’s because retailers said to do it and we obliged. In the early 1900’s colours were reversed, pink for boys and blue for girls. It was around the mid 1900’s where the colours got gradually reversed and here they are today. My son is blonde with blue eyes so we mostly dress him in blue because he looks amazing in every tone of it. I love yellow and that would have been my first pick but he’s way to pale for that. We do have a few toys and a couple blankets in pink – drives my mom insane. I could honestly care less.
Wedding dresses were actually your best garment that you owned until One of the Queens dawned a white gown. White gowns are commonly associated with purity and apparently that’s also false since blue is actually what religion used to consider a pure colour. Oh the insanity!
Post # 11
My friends daughter is exactly the same age as my son. Our observation has been that its more difficult to dress a boy in pink, than dress a girl in blue. I say go for a blue baby shower!
Post # 12
chillbee29 : I definitely had some (older) people say “how will we know what color to use in the afghan if we don’t know if it’s a boy or girl??!” to which I responded that there are about a million more colors in the world. I despise pink so we definitely didn’t find out the gender/sex/whatever so no one could smother me in pink crap if it was a girl (it wasn’t). It’s a weird tradition… other colors appeal to me more anyway.
I’d say overall most of my friends just get what’s going, no one went full blue or pink, but I did attend a shower that was all frilly pink dresses – that child happened to have a very hard start in life and never got to wear any of it as she had outgrown it all by the time she left the hospital. Definitely cemented my aspirations for no one to do that to me though!
Post # 13
I agree that the pink and blue are more to represent to the rest of the world which sex the baby is. People are moving away from gendered clothing and colors, yet many people still get uptight about their baby being misidentified as a boy or girl. The only way around that for babies who don’t have enough hair to put a bow in or who won’t wear a headband is clothing that identifies them.
As for “team green”, it becomes very apparent after having a baby that yellow is for girls and green is for boys (unless the item is a frilly dress), or at least that’s how the rest of the world identifies those colors.
Post # 14
I agree with you 100% philosophically. In practice I’ll probably steer away from dresses for sons, or anything pink AND frilly (just pink or just frilly is fine), just bc of my own (irrational) biases. But once they’re old enough to express an opinion about their clothing I’ll just let them pick their own, regardless.
Post # 15
Well maybe individuals have got over it, (odd to think too that pink/girls blue/boys is the reverse of what was considered right a few generations Iona ago.) But you have only to look at Target or somewhere similar to see acres of gender specific colours and clothes .
l find much of the little girls stuff horrible , black tulle, off the shoulder, shoes with heels etc, sexualised stuff. Little boys on the other hand is cute as anything. Plus warm, practical . Sigh.
My pet hate , sorry to those who like them, are those beflowered and/ sparkly headbands people put on their girl babies. They always look tight and uncomfortable to me, and their function is what? ensuring strangers know the baby’s sex?