Post # 1
Long story short, when we started ttc I just was so gosh darn excited about our baby making status that I may have slipped out our news to one of my near and dear girlfriends…who then made the assumption that being I told her, I must have told it to my other two near and dears as well, hence, she accidently mentioned it to them. While it’s not ideal, I honestly don’t hold it against her – in general terms, this would typically be a pretty safe assumption. My mom also knows, and his parents have a pretty good idea. While I don’t regret telling my mom (she really doesn’t do well with even the best surprises, and she keeps secrets very well); I do wish that the other two of my friends didn’t know.
So, do other people know you’re ttc, and, if they do, do you regret having them let in on your secret?
Post # 3
Only a handful people know because I cant keep a secret because I am so excited. haha But I dont go posting it on Facebook or telling people I am not close to.
Post # 4
I told my mom after we’d been trying for about 6 or 7 months and I was starting to worry that something was wrong, and I told my BFF SIL after about 9 months. It wasn’t something I really wanted people we knew IRL to know about…I saved all my crazy for the TTC boards here, lol.
Post # 5
Amen! Crazy people these days, airing out their sperm covered undies on facebook. I tell yah.
Post # 6
Yes, its so annoying. I am hoping I can keep myself from telling my friends and family I am pregnant until I turn 3 months when I actually become pregnant. haha
Post # 7
@NurseMarriedToAFarmer: I make subtle hints to it, like if I say I’m tired at work, the girls always say, “Are you pregnant?” And I say, “I hope so!” And let it be. So they know it’s what I want but I haven’t sat them down and informed them.
Post # 8
Well, that is fine and cute because its from the excitement.
Post # 9
I held off telling people for a long time, but now that we’re dealing with infertility, I’ve started telling a few more people – specifically those who are always demanding to know when we’re going to have kids. I’m getting a lot more…chill..about the whole thing.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
I have been pretty open with our TTC journey, because I knew we would struggle from day one. Since we moved to Clomid and IVF, I’ve been even more open – it’s not embarrassing to me, and I need the support. Plus, I have to take lots of time off from work, so they HAD to know the reason for it.
I haven’t told friends, acquaintainces, facebook, haha, but the important people in my life definitely know we’re struggling.
Post # 11
I plan to try to keep it a secret unless we have trouble. Then I will tell my nearest and dearest because I’ll need the additional support (especially my mom because she had trouble having all three of her kids).
Post # 12
We are keeping it very quiet, just don’t want people asking non stop. 2 of my close girlfriends know, and another friend of mine (and DH’s) knows as we chat a lot, she just had her first etc and she has asked without being nosy. I know she (along with the other 2) won’t spread the word or ask every month and are there for support if we need them. Neither set of parents know, no siblings etc… just those 3 girls, and we plan on keeping it that way!:)
Post # 13
We both told a sister and that is it. I needed someone I could talk to about it and I know she won’t tell. DH has subtly hinted to a couple of his friends, mostly along the lines of we hope to be having a LO next spring.
I don’t want it to be general knowledge among family and friends as I don’t want/need the pressure and stress from evryone wondering.
Post # 14
I think people will probably be able to tell when we are TTC just based on the fact that when people have asked in the past when we were definitely not ready, I was not shy about saying not yet…in a way/tone that was apparantely very clear because my co-workers laughed and were like, “Wow, you really DON’T want kids right now, huh?” And I said no…I do not. And when people would talk about kids or there would be screaming babies/unruly children in our store, I’m pretty sure my expression said it all. Lately I’ve been a little softer in my reactions.
Although I kind of worry about the opposite – that I’ve made it so crystal clear I’m not ready yet, that when that changes and I am pregnant that people will be surprised and think it wasn’t on purpose. I’ve told a couple of people (my cousin and boss, probably the two people who bring it up most frequently – which is okay, they’re both people I consider fairly good friends) that DH wants to have a child before he’s 30, and they both seemed kinda surprised, like I wouldn’t want it to be so soon (he is 28 now). I do want to start trying in the next year, I just really wanted to enoy at least a year of marriage just the two of us before TTC.
Wow, that was long and got kinda off track…sorry guys, sometimes I start typing and just can’t seem to stop! haha
Post # 15
DH and I were originally going to start TTC at the end of the year but we just had a talk a few days ago and decided we will start next month!
I was so excited that I have told 2 close friends but that is it (both have kids). We really dont want the whole world knowing. I am assuming our parents, and close friends are aware that we may start trying as we have made no secret of the fact we def do want kids but they haven’t asked and we’re not saying anything.
Post # 16
When we start TTC we are keeping it a secret. I’m already a little sensitive because it may be troublesome getting pregnant (hopefully not-fingers crossed) and I don’t want people asking every month. Especially because all my girlfriends that have kids got knocked up at the drop of a hat. I’ll tell people way down the line if we do have difficulties and need support but having people know just seems like too much pressue. And it seems really fun keeping a secret about something so special because I am such an open book about everything else in my life!