(Closed) do people normally….

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4824 posts
Honey bee

What do you mean? Do you mean your parents? or just friends and distant relatives?

Post # 4
6351 posts
Bee Keeper

If someone is married, engaged or living together they usually are invited to bring a date. So is someone who may not know anyone else at the wedding.

Post # 5
10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@SoontobeMrsA: ditto to what she said

Sometimes people are forced to invite their parents’ guests because their parents are paying for the wedding. We were lucky and did not have to do that!

Post # 7
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It’s rude to not invite a social unit together – i.e. H/W, engaged couple, established relationship.  It is generally polite to extend a plus one to your bridal party/immediate family, but not necessary.  Other than that, no it is not rude to not give everyone a plus one.

Post # 8
3575 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I have never heard of people in a wedding party inviting other people to someone else’s wedding!  Is that what you’re referring to?  So, I invite my maid of honor and her husband (2 peeps) and then she invites others on top of that???? 

Post # 9
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

You and your Fiance should decide the guest list with the input of your families of your families (especially if they are contributing financially).  Others should not have input into this. 

On the guest list, if you are inviting one person who has a SO (meaning living together, engaged, or married) then I chose to invite their guest. 

Other than that, no one should be inviting people of their choice to your wedding. 

Post # 10
350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

“If someone is married, engaged or living together they usually are invited to bring a date. So is someone who may not know anyone else at the wedding.”

This is a new “rule”.  Traditionally, you allow all single adult guests an escort.  As far as other people, only the host should invite guests beyond an escort. People can (and will) have input, but the host is the ultimate approver and guests should not take it on their own to invite additional people.

Post # 11
714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@cyndistar3:  No, its not at all rude to not let others invite their own guests to your wedding – its rude of them to expect to be able to do this.

You are the host – its your event and you determine the guest list, period.

Post # 12
899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I know what you mean – I see posts such as “my Mother-In-Law won’t stop inviting people” or “I gave my mum 80 invites” and it confuses me. I understand that if your parents are paying for some (or all of the wedding), then you might need to consult them on the guest list, and maybe even agree to invite a couple of relatives that you don’t know to well or your old next-door-neighbour. But I don’t understand inviting people you don’t know or like, or letting other people invite people to your wedding.

RainStorm. xx

Post # 13
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

It’s rude for people to think they can invite guests. 


Post # 15
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

If someone has a significant other that they’ve been with long enough that you know who they are and it’s safe to assume that that’s who they’d pick as their date, you can address both people by name.  There’s some debate that you should send a second invitation to the long term boyfriend at his own residence if they don’t live together… but I didn’t do that.

For example, we’d invite my cousin and her long term boyfriend as:

Miss Lindsay Johnson

Mr. Shawn Smith

If they don’t have a specific partner, and you want to extend the option to bring a guest, you could do it like:

Miss Lindsay Johnson and Guest


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