(Closed) Do people not get babysitters anymore?? VENT

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@CherryWaves: you will get all kinds of reasons that people don’t hire babysitters, but dont’ give in!!!

Post # 4
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

So you are not inviting kids and are now getting mad because she may not attend but her husband will?  I don’t understand.  You have every right to not invite children, but they have every right to decline to attend and stay home with the kids.

ETA-To me her message sounds like “I’m trying to figure out what to do with my kids, but if I have no options, I’ll just stay home with them and R can go to the wedding.”  I didn’t really read it that she was asking for you to invite her kids.

Post # 5
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MightySapphire: I have to agree. In My Humble Opinion what she says was, since the children are not invited I am trying to make arrangements for htem. We would both love to be there but if we can;t then one of us will be.

And unless you have children and are in their shoes economically then please don’t make assumptions that they can jsut pay some girl down the street 10 bucks for a few hours. Not everyone entrusts their children to strangers. And not everyone can afford an extra 50 or more for a sitter for a few hours on top of buying you a wedding gift.

Post # 6
4824 posts
Honey bee

We had a groomsmans wife do that exact thing. End of the day she found a babysitter and came. 


Post # 9
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@CherryWaves:Well if you already know that she’s like that… why so upset about her supposedly predictable response? Just hope she doesn’t show up and limit your contact with her if you don’t like her games.

Post # 10
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@CherryWaves: Perhaps you should have a different title to your post instead. This is personal not a generalized statement to which I was referring to. I was only trying to help, if you don’t want the kids there then don’t cave.

As to their monetary position I stand by what I wrote. You are not payign their bills so you do not know their finances.

Post # 11
1061 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@CherryWaves:I TOTALLY understand where you are coming from.  Future Sister-In-Law is playing these games with us too, saying that Future Brother-In-Law will have to stay at the hotel with the kids until Future Mother-In-Law leaves the reception and then he will come.  We have offered up a perfect babysitter that we would pay for, is in university, has babysat my cousins kids for 8+ years and FIL’s know her father.  But, they “won’t leave her with a stranger”.  Umm… your kids go to daycare?

At the end of the day though, they are the ones who end up looking kind of silly when people ask where Future Brother-In-Law is.

Post # 13
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@CherryWaves: We dont hire babysitters. We only use family. So if all of our family was invited to something where kids weren’t going, then one of us wouldn’t go.  I don’t see it as a big deal. When you invite people to something, sometimes they can’t make it for all kinds of reasons. Yes it stinks, but they have to make their own parenting decisions. 

Post # 14
415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@CherryWaves:   What an annoying woman.   I think you should reply back with “http://www.sittercity.com/ ”  and nothing else in the message. Haha.  Maybe she’ll get the hint. 

Post # 15
132 posts
Blushing bee

@CherryWaves: I don’t really understand what the big deal is.  It seems like this is someone you don’t really care for all that much.  If I were in your shoes, I’d be happy someone I didn’t like decided to stay home with their kids instead of coming to my wedding.  Win-win, right?

This vent seems a lot more specific than your post-title and initial post let on.  As a general rule, I don’t think I’d be upset if someone I invited to my wedding decided to decline on the basis of not being able to bring their kids.  If I made the decision not to include kids in the invites, then I would honestly probably expect this response.  This situation is obviously more complicated than that, but again, if someone that brings that much drama to things wasn’t going to be at my wedding, I’d breathe a sigh of relief, no matter what the reason.

Post # 16
7499 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

No.  I do not hire baby sitters.  I only use family.  And some people think that is weird, but it is how we do things.  It sounds as if there is more to this story than the title of your post suggests, and I get that. 

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