Post # 1
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Blushing bee
Do people not think youre engaged/married?
I just started a new job as a recruiter so i was in an interview with someone who is a flourist and after the interview she asked my trainer who did her flowers. I DID HER INTERVIEW and i have a big pink ring that was hanging out on the top of my clipboard the whole time while she was sitting off to the side.
I was just flabbergasted! im still looking for a florist for my AHR but i guess it wont be her!!
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
I’m sorry…can you elaborate a little more on your story. I’ve seen your ring and it’s gorgeous, but I am not sure I get the story. Lol. Probably because I would never be confused with YOUR ring… 😉
Post # 4
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Honey bee
I’m confused… so what happened exactly?
Post # 5
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Helper bee
I’ve had tourists comment on my ring, “So is that an engagement ring or…” Its not a typical engagement ring I guess. Very modest and the diamond looks small because of the wider band. (Maybe they were used to seeing HUGE diamonds)!!
Whatevs! I love my ring, its me 🙂
Post # 6
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Blushing bee
@stillwaiting88: Sure. I conducted her interview and i happen to hold my clipboard with my hand on top. If i put it down they can see my notes so my left hand faces the candidate the whole interview. My co worker was sitting off to the left. Not even behind the desk!
After the interview she was walking in front of us and turned to ask my coworker (who has a diamond ring and wedding band) about who did her flowers. The two of them got into a long conversation about wedding flowers to the point that it was completely aquard for me and i just went back to my desk.
She had likely seen my ring but totally cut me out of the converstation… and in a interview where i would be deciding if she would be joining the company (which she will, she was great) but wouldnt you include BOTH hiring managers in wedding conversation if they are both wearing bands? Unless you dont think one of them is engaged right?
does that make more sense? I guess i find that people dont often just burst into conversation about weddings with me like that. Ever.
Post # 7
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Blushing bee
@Jaxxmom: Ooooooh I see. Awww I’m sorry 🙁 Your pink sapphire (that’s what it is, right?) is gorgeous. I wouldn’t mistaken it for anything else. Well, I am about to be in your boat. I have decided on a ruby engagement ring and the reactions I get from people when I even tell them is…..kinda rude. LOL. Oh well. Your ring is beautiful, and it sucks you experienced that 🙁
Thanks for clearing that up for me. I can be a little slow sometimes. Hehe
Post # 8
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Blushing bee
@ohulani: I do too!
@stillwaiting88: Thanks hun! I guess im just used to the bee where a ring can look like anything as long as it s on your finger its your e-ring!
Post # 9
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Honey bee
well that’s no fun. I think the issue here is that aring on your left hand doesn’t necessarily always mean engaged/married to a lot of people. I had a few friends that refused to wear their everyday rings (ie rings they got from parents or heirlooms) on their right hand. I do hate that people assume that if it isn’t a diamond then you’re not engaged/married. But here’s the main takeaway, does it really matter what they think? Nah. In this case it’s her loss for being so quick to make an assumption (or maybe she legitimately did not see your ring!)
Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
i’ve always worn a ring on my left hand. my ering definitely looks like and ering.
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
sorry but I think you are overthinking things.
Post # 12
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Blushing bee
UPDATE: Lemme just add im not upset!! It was just an observation! Im just wondering if other people have had the same type of thing happen!!
If anything, i know nothing about flowers. It would have been nice to engage in the conversation with them. I would have taked to my co worker in depth afterwards but she just had moss. LOTS OF MOSS which sounds really pretty but there are more flowers out there!
Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
I had another thought – perhaps because you were only wearing one ring, she figured the coworker with the two bands (obviously already married) would be better to ask. She may have assumed you hadn’t got that far in planning yet so it was better to ask the already married one.
Post # 14
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Blushing bee
Most new people I meet tend to dig to get an answer out of me before they ask if I am engaged/married.
Ther conversation usually goes… oh nice ring, what kind of stone is that? It is silver?
Then I answer and just say it’s my e-ring.
Post # 15
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Blushing bee
@Pinkmoon: Great point! expecially if its a job interview! GO with the sure thing instead of making an uncomfortable situation even worse!
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
@Jaxxmom: I’m going to be honest: when I see a gemstone engagement ring with no band, I assume the wearer is engaged, but I never bring it up in convo, just to be safe. Kind of like I never ask a woman about her pregnancy before knowing 100% she’s pregnant. I think PP’s right, the woman probably just went for the sure thing, and assumed you’d chime in if you were engaged. Since you didn’t, she probably just assumed you weren’t.
