(Closed) Do people often steal centerpieces??

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 46
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Blushing bee

It’s common in my culture to take them as a giveaway. I’ve only been to 1 wedding where guests weren’t allowed to take them bc they belonged to the hotel. If they are not to be taken, have a small sign on the table and have the MC make an announcement.

Post # 47
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I have been worried about this too as most of the vases I have collected very expensive.  I plan to take all of the floral arrangements out of the vases and place them on a table with signs that say “please ONLY take from this table.”

Post # 48
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Banquet hall

I’m sorely now tempted to write the word “thief!” on masking tape for the bottom of each display item. Some of these stories are horrifying. A WWII letter? Do you usually take flowers? Sure, maybe. Steal and read other people’s personal papers? Appalling. I too have a platter my great-great grandmother brought over from Scotland. I’d be in a crying rage for days. Kudos to the bride for being so calm.

Post # 49
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

This is my worst nightmare as we are renting a lot of pieces from a vintage rental company as well as using antiques that we’ve been sourcing. 

Post # 50
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - Castle

Not a wedding, but my office had an end of year work function where the theme was the movie Grease. They had hired these cute different coloured ice cream sundae sculptures and little vintage cars and records. A week afterwards a company wide email went out requesting the return if many of the now missing items that people had taken. I know that it is common for some spare flowers to be given away after an event, but to take the hardware?

Post # 51
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Sugar Beekeeper

It may be relatively common to make the offer to a few people at the end of the affair, but it is never, ever, appropriate to  assume it’s OK and make off with one. That is awful. 

Post # 52
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Some people even take the salt and pepper shaker from the table! Cray cray.

Post # 53
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

VictorianChick:  Its none of your(the guests) business what they do with such things and one should not just take them because they’re “common items” unless the host has given a go-ahead to take the items.

Post # 54
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Bumble bee

Omg!I plan on renting candelabras. I can’t remember how tall they are though 2-3 feet anyway. And then im topping them with 2 foot round pomanders. Good luck sneaking those out! But I will be sure to ask the staff to keep an eye on them. Replacing them would cost so much!

Post # 55
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

VictorianChick:  But that’s the problem, isn’t it?  How do you know the items aren’t rented or borrowed?  Or that the bride/groom were going to further lend them to another couple?  I know I’m not omniscient, and I’m pretty sure no one is.

Post # 56
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

In some cultures it’s a given…you take. Center peice and enjoy it however you like…so if start with the Hispanics. Lol.

serious tho, people probably had no idea they were rentals or personal belongings. If I had rented center pieces for my wedding I would have had to announce to everyone NOT to take them. 🙂

she should just send out a kind and genthe Facebook post or email to guests, thanks them for their attendance and explain about the center pieces and give a location where they can be returned… no questions asked. 

Post # 57
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Buzzing bee

purrrbaby:  As a guest I don’t wonder what people do with the centerpieces beause as a guest we take them where I am from. It is common. I am ASKING WTH someone does with all that stuff if they do keep it with genuine curiousity as a POSTER on this forum. Because that is a lot of stuff one takes home if they intend on keeping it all.

Apple_Blossom:  I never knew people rented centerpieces! I’m learning it from this thread.And I never said it was Okay to take rented pieces. The OP asked if it was common to “steal” centerpieces and I said its common to TAKE them where I am from, but its assumed you would anyway. No one rents centerpieces where I am from.

Like I said I would never use my anitques because it is a given that people taken the centerpieces home, and there goes my antiques! And as I thought about my centerpieces I had no intention keeping 10 or more of something. It’s tradition for people to take them, so let the people have the crap. WTH do I want that stuff cluttering up my house for? ugghh.

I agree with the previous poster send out a message on FB asking, begging for the return of your stuff.

 

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Post # 58
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Helper bee

i’ve never been to a wedding where people DIDN’T get the centerpieces!  BUT, the DJ always played a game or announced who gets them – I’ve never just seen someone take one!

Post # 59
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Bumble bee

And another reason why I’m glad we’re not having centerpieces at all.

Post # 60
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Our community is notorious for taking centerpieces. We got the biggest and heaviest ones we could in hopes this doesn’t happen as they are rentals. We are going to have our MC make an announcement letting people know to take the flowers, not the base. 

For my bridal shower I made the centerpieces and everyone took them. 

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