(Closed) Do people usually give registry items or money/gift cards?

posted 13 years ago in Money
  • poll: Do you usually give registry items or money/gift cards?

    I usually chose an item from the registry or buy some other tangible gift.

    I usually give money or gift cards.

  • Post # 3
    468 posts
    Helper bee

    I don’t like giving money or gift cards, because I feel like I am saying "Here is the dollar amount that your friendship is worth to me."  (I do love GETTING money and gift cards though…)


    I usually buy a gift off the registry, and I never ever ever go off registry.

    Post # 4
    751 posts
    Busy bee

    I usually buy a gift from the registry because I know it’s something the couple has chosen & would like to have. If I know the couple really really well, I try to pick something specific to them from the registry, like for a couple I know likes to have lots of parties, I will choose their bar set, or glassware or whatever – something I know they will get lots of use from.

    Post # 5
    181 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    It depends on the person/couple. I prefer to give a gift, especially from the registry b/c I know it’s something they wanted.

    Post # 6
    308 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    In my family, we typically do registry gifts for showers, then money for the wedding gift.

    Post # 7
    1148 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I would agree with Newport Nuptials that it is typical if a guest is invited to a shower and the wedding, that they give a tangile gift at the shower, and money at the wedding.  If I didn’t get invited to a shower, I will probably get a registry item for a gift.

    Post # 8
    94 posts
    Worker bee

    Apparently it varies by culture or region. In Southern California and Washington DC, I’ve generally seen people giving gifts off of the registry. However, I understand that Italian-Americans will give a tangible gift for the bridal shower and cash for the wedding. Chinese-Americans (and other Asian cultures) give red envelopes with cash. I would check with other family members who have married recently and/or other newlyweds in your community to see what people usually do.

    I’m attending a wedding in England and will be bringing cash due to the difficulty of dealing with credit cards (have to call and make sure the company is aware before you charge something overseas) and/ or transportating an item in my luggage.

    Post # 9
    24 posts
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I usually just buy something off the registry. It’s quick & easy and they already picked it out and liked it. And it saves them the hassle of going to the store after the wedding to buy it themselves.

    Post # 10
    499 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I used to give off-registry gifts because my mom is the queen of it and hates registries and thinks cash is impersonal, so that was just what I knew… but now I look back and feel so bad for all those off-registry gifts I gave, even though they were nice and certainly not cheap! Now, I ALWAYS give registry gifts for the shower, usually about $60 for a regular friend and $100 for a closer friend; and money for the wedding gift. Depending on the closeness of the friendship, we tend to give more or less accordingly. We would never go below $150 though, nowadays, unless we don’t actually go to the wedding, or if we go solo. In that case we’d give anywhere from $50-$100.

    Post # 11
    1194 posts
    Bumble bee

    For me, it completely depends on the couple.  If I know that they would appreciate the cash more than I gift, then I give cash.  If they are well-established and are "all set" financially, I give a registry gift.  I rarely go outside of the registry for a wedding gift if I am going to give a physical gift.

    For showers, though, I pretty much stick to the registry.  For v.good friends I will get something off the registry and then get a cute little lingerie item.  I like the reaction it draws at a shower 

    Post # 12
    179 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    It depends on the registry. If they have lower cost items like my registry has then I’ll just get the item off the registry. If everything is higher in price, I can’t afford it, so I’ll just give a gift card towards their registry.

    Post # 13
    172 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2007

    I usually give a registry gift for the shower and cash for the wedding.  I use to give only registry gifts when I was younger but then someone mentioned that the bride and groom would have to deal with having a space for presents and then loading all the presents into the car (amongst other end-of-reception things to deal with).  That changed my perspective on things and now I give cash for the wedding. 

    Post # 14
    598 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I feel like the couple spent time in selecting gifts, so I would rather give that.

    Post # 15
    943 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

    I like giving tangible gifts, I like receiving gift cards. I’m such a contridiction 🙂

    Post # 16
    4194 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    If I’m organized enough to send a gift before the wedding it’s off the registry, otherwise it’s a card with $$ in it at the wedding.

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