Do people yell at your work?

posted 2 years ago in Career
  • poll: Do your coworkers yell at each other?
    All. The. Time. : (11 votes)
    10 %
    Only sometimes : (16 votes)
    14 %
    It’s happened once : (17 votes)
    15 %
    Never : (70 votes)
    61 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    5562 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2017

    12_Elle :  

    I have never experienced that before. I’m in finance, some jobs were fast paced and others have been slow.

    I can’t imagine your anxiety level at being pulled into a room and screamed at.

    are you tied into your contract for a year? If you can get into another department, do it. Now.

    Some people might thrive in that environment (not me) but it’s causing you a lot of stress. Get out.

    Post # 3
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    114 posts
    Blushing bee

    Bee I am sorry that sounds absolutely awful. In my job there are different partners that I work with and very few are yellers. They are heavily disliked by the staff because of their behavior. And I am not going to lie, I am not sure I could surive in an environment where people yelled. It’s completely unprofessional and would cause my anxiety to spike.

    I am not saying difficult conversations are not possible or even heated ones. But outright yelling is not something I think I could handle. I would likely be looking for a different place where the environment isn’t as toxic.

    Post # 4
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    9948 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    I had a job once where people would scream across the office at each other and then one would run off crying. 

    I left that job as quickly as possible. 

    Post # 5
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    8068 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    12_Elle :  get out? Sorry bee but that sounds AWFUL. I work in a law firm and of course, sometimes mistakes happen and sometimes the partners are furious about it, but even then if they DO explode (which has rarely happened) they quickly regain their composure and professionalism. 

    Post # 7
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    88 posts
    Worker bee

    Lots of public yelling, constantly. Senior people just feel free to treat more junior people this way, even though often times they’re in the wrong. No one ever apologizes, and management thinks it’s fine (“pros and cons”). It sucks and I’d love to get another job. Sadly, this is my only job out of college and I don’t have many transferable skills, and in my industry this is commonplace 🙁

    Post # 8
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    2038 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    Yes, we have a fewer yellers here. One guy I’m not sure how he’s still got this job because he’s always being yelled at by his boss, I’d have definitely quit by now. The poor guy also gets yelled at and told he’s not good enough in front of other people in the office. The guy’s boss also yelled at his boss the other day too, he’s naturally a loud person but when he yells the whole building knows. It’s really unprofessional in my opinion, especially as his yelling contains lots of swearing (I swear like a sailor myself but I believe there’s a time and place). Unfortunately he’s not the only yeller and he’s not the only one that borders on obnoxious. It’s one of the many reasons that I hate my job and I’m hoping I can get a new job as soon as possible.

    My manager doesn’t yell, although is probably too far the other way. There’s a complete lack of investment in managers here and a blame culture. It sucks. I’d never worked in a place with yelling before and on my must have for a next job is positive atmosphere because I don’t want this again. I can’t offer much help I’m affraid.

    Post # 9
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    5109 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2014

    Not me, but my husband worked in car sales and they yelled all the time. Everybody getting in fights with everybody, slingling insults, threatening to fire people or actually firing people only to have them back the next day, sabotaging people’s chances of getting a job elsewhere, etc. Horrible, but that’s just the culture in that industry I guess. I lot of people couldn’t handle it and I don’t blame them. I always told Darling Husband that his relationship with his boss was like an abusive marriage. He’d get reamed out and then an hour later the boss would be all buddy buddy talking about his big plans for him with the company, then fire him the next day for no reason, it was ridiculous and that’s why he left. 

    Is there no way to get out of the contract? Can you speak to HR about the hostile work environment? Maybe they can transfer you to a different department or something? It sucks that you’ve put so much into getting this job, but this environment is not good for your health. 

    Post # 10
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    2179 posts
    Buzzing bee

    12_Elle :  I would definitely look at your contract for a way to get out. Unfortunately I have worked at 2 different places, totally different industries, that were toxic like you are describing. I tried to steel myself against it, as you have said, but it doesn’t work, especially not in the long term. I wish I had put myself, my emotional health, mental health, and professionalism above misguided loyalty to a toxic job. I wasn’t in a contract in either of those places, I was staying out of “I need to pay my bills.”   

    Is there a clause to get out before a year? There has to be a way, some way. The toll the anxiety will take on you isn’t worth this, not to mention the unhealthy atmosphere. The only contracts I am familiar with are rental agreements, and in them you can get out before the end of your lease, usually have to pay a fee of some kind. Please look into a way to make your daily work life better, it simply isn’t worth this. 

    Post # 11
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    70 posts
    Worker bee

    I’m in nursing. Physicians are passionate people. They yell. As a nurse I try to not take a personally and remember they are frusturated at the situation and to maintain my own composure. Doing so always calms the physician down.

    However, in my current office position at Medicare, I never hear yelling as I only work with 2 physicians remotely.

    Post # 12
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    2179 posts
    Buzzing bee

    SithLady :  YES! My toxic work places definitely felt like an abusive relationship and its sickening to me now that I have perspective on both. 

    Post # 13
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    325 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2018

    I haven’t experienced THAT level of workplace nonsense, but I did recently leave a job that made me similarly miserable.  I’ve learned from a lot of experience that it doesn’t really matter what kind or size of company you work for because you’ll run into rude people anywhere you go.  There is usually a common denominator within repeat workplace drama and it sounds like your weak link may exist on the management side.  Yelling isn’t ever an appropriate response in my opinion and it sounds like those particular employees may not be cut out for a professional setting.  I’d stay out of it as best as possible and take in the free entertainment while you’re slaving away.  I understand why you feel it’s necessary to stick it out, but there really isn’t any harm in looking for something else.  You may not get a ton of traction because of your short work history at this current job but that issue can be easily addressed in an interview.  If a better employer is willing to hire you, why not get out of what is obviously a straight up unhealthy situation?

    Post # 14
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    163 posts
    Blushing bee

    I’ve had two jobs where people yelled. One was at a law firm where one partner was always yelling. 

    The other was at a school site where one teacher was always yelling. He was transferred to another site. 

    Ritht now no one yells at my job. It’s very stressful for me to be around yellers. I can literally feel the stress levels rise in my body when they start, even though they’ve never yelled at me. Just being around it is toxic and i don’t like to use that word often. 

    Post # 15
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    1750 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    Whoa, that’s crazy. I know of one incident in which 2 employees yelled at each other(over a petty work thing). It was a huge deal and we were all called into give statements and both employees were disciplined. But I have a very low stress /easy going workplace. We have production numbers and if you’re meeting the numbers, no one cares what you’re doing at a given moment.  Plus most of us work from home most of the time. This incident happened when both men were in the office on the same day and obviously both were stressed about something and the situation got out of control.

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