Post # 1
First of all, I am from a part of Europe where the engagement ring and wedding band are worn on different hands so it is not common for us to wear rings on the same finger. I would however prefer this as I have some right hand rings that I would like to continue to wear.
When FH and I were shopping for wedding bands I tried them on together with my engagement ring and the sales woman was mortified that I even thought about wearing them together. She said that the rings would wear each other down by being worn together and that she would strongly advise against it. I asked her if I could wear a thin silver spacer to take some of the wear but she said that it would make no difference.
If it makes any difference, my engagement ring is a solitaire in a 2 mm pave setting, while the wedding band is a 4 mm eternity band with 0,15 carat diamonds.
What is your experience? Does wearing diamond rings together really pose such a great risk?
Post # 2
I am living in Europe too but in my home country we wear the wedding band and engagement rings together. When I went shopping for a wedding band the sales people were really against it. They all wanted me to have a matching wedding band to my fiancé even though I wanted something slimmer and would nest with my engagement ring. They even suggested that if the rings aren’t exactly the same then it’s bad for our marriage! Eventually they got upset with me and just said they couldn’t help me at all. I ended up buying the wedding band I wanted from Etsy and it’s perfect. People have really strong ideas about what is “right”. The truth is, the rings will scratch a bit but so will touching absolutely anything else while wearing your rings. You can’t get away from it. If you get a “nesting band” it will help protect the engagement ring’s setting. Not easy to find in a standard store in Europe but you can find plenty online.
Post # 3
Not more than just wearing them normally would do. It’s extremely common in the states to wear both rings together daily on the same finger for the rest of your life. Worse comes to worse go get it buffed now and then.
Post # 4
I’m in the UK and we were them next to each other on the same finger, I haven’t noticed any damage or wear yet! X margaerybeerell :
Post # 5
- Wedding: February 2018 - UK
My mum has been wearing her engagement ring, wedding ring, and eternity ring in a stack on one finger for over 30 years, and hers are all fine. It’s standard to wear the rings on the same finger here. I’ve only been married a year and a bit, but mine are fine too.
Post # 6
the only reason i have ever heard is down to the metals. If you wear a softer metal next to a harder one, it can wear the softer one away, but i still don’t think its by a significant amount. for example my engagement ring is Palladium, so if i were to wear a white gold ring as a wedding band, the white gold would be “worn” after time. It may also effect the plating of any metals.
Post # 7
margaerybeerell : sound like Germany to me. 😂
I’d say it depends on the setting you are looking at. Exposed girdles can literally saw into the neighboring ring. There are some gruesome pictures on pricescope.
Other than that millions and millions (especially in anglo-Saxon tradition eg US, GB etc) of women wear a wedding/bridal set and have been good to go, even passing down rings from generation to generation…
Post # 8
margaerybeerell : Yes they would wear each other down eventually if they were of different metals. You could get your set soldered together, that’s what I’ve done and they wear evenly because they are stuck together.
Post # 9
margaerybeerell : They are commonly worn together here in the US. My ering is platinum, and the wedding band will be platinum too. I don’t anticipate any issues with them wearing each other away. I see lots of ring spacers on the Bee, but my personal taste is to have a ring gap in between the rings. Platinum wears at a much, much slower rate than gold (if at all), so if you are concerned you could shop for settings in more durable metals than gold.
Post # 10
I wear three rings- all on the same finger. I’d say minimal wearing, but I’ve just taken them in periodically to have the rings re-dipped and checked for any weaknesses so they can be fixed before it becomes an issue. Mine are white gold so the rhodium plating wears off (that’s what contributes to making the gold white), over time. Of note, i rarely take my rings off and have two (almost 3) small children- so they’re getting a lot of wear!
Post # 11
My mother wore her engagement and wedding rings together for almost 45 years. She’d take the diamond off for dishes, showers, etc, but always wore them. After her death, they came to me and there is very little wear damage at all.
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2012 - Iowa
I wear my engagement ring and wedding band together – its recommended to solder them but I haven’t and don’t plan to. It’s been 5 years and I don’t notice them being worn down at all, they do get checked/cleaned every 6 years and re-plated as needed.
Post # 13
margaerybeerell : Are you in Germany? Between the rings and the beer, I had to ask lol.
Theoretically, yes, you might damage your rings by wearing them together. You might also damage them by whacking them on a door, or you might lose them. This is life, and in life things happen. I’ve worn rings next to each other for years and years and I’ve never had a problem. Unfortunately jewelry store clerks are not the best source of information on jewelry. Paradoxical but true.
Post # 14
Is the ring in question 18k gold? Diamonds will scratch at anything softer than they are (which is most things), but it won’t be noticeable unless the metal is super soft. Silver and 18k gold will show wear long before 14k gold or lower, and platinum, well….is platinum. Most rings show a little wear over time, but that can easily be corrected with a polishing cloth in the case of gold. Your ring will certainly not wear away significantly during the course of your lifetime, even if you do nothing to prevent the friction.
Post # 15
- Wedding: April 29th, 2016
I’ve been wearing mine together for 3 years now (both white gold) and I just took them off to see if there’s any wear. The edges look perfect to me, so I wouldn’t worry about it unless the rings are designed in a way that may cause pitting or scratching in each other.