(Closed) Do Robes Count as Bridesmaid Gift?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Does something the bridesmaids use the day of the wedding count as a bridesmaids gift?

    Yes - Anything you give them is a great gift!

    Yes - As long as they can actually be used after the wedding (doesn't say bridesmaid, date, etc)

    No - Gifts should be completely separate and unrelated to the wedding day.

  • Post # 2
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

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    kimberlypaige28:  I think it is a gift but since they are such a popular thing these days chances are your bridesmaids may end up with multiple robes in one season if they are in multiple weddings! I would still buy them all something else on top of it. Or craft them something like a scrap book for each, it does not have to be $$$ 

    Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    I think of a gift as something each individual would want/choose for themselves. Without knowing your bridesmaids it’s hard to answer–they could use them after the wedding, but would they? Are they really, really nice robes? Something you would give them as a birthday present? If not, can you add something more personal and not wedding-related for each of them?

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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    This totally counts in my book!

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

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    kimberlypaige28: I mean…a gift if something you give someone without condition/wanting to be repaid. So by definition is it a gift? Yeah. Is it a good gift or a gift that would make me feel appreciated as your BM? No. Earrings for your wedding and robes for your wedding getting ready pictures are gifts for you. You want them because you want a cohesive look. I think a better gift is shopping for your BMs like it is their birthday or Christmas. It does take a bit more effort, but it shows that you appreciate these girls who are taking their time and money to support you on  your wedding day. 

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    Newbee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I got each of my bridesmaids a robe from VS to be worn before the wedding with a gift card to their favorite store to make it more personal.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee

    Would you buy them a robe and these earrings for their birthdays? If not, then I think you should try to get each girl something small and personal as well. Even though the can both be used after the wedding you are buying them for the purpose of your photos, not as a sweet thankyou to your bridesmaids. 

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee

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    kimberlypaige28:  For individual gifts just think of each girls personality and what you would get them for their birthday. 

    • Soy candles
    • Succulents in cute pots/jars
    • Herbal tea
    • Perfume/lotions
    • Photo frames (complete with a photo of the two of you)
    • Vases
    Post # 10
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I totally consider it a gift.  It’s common to give jewelry as a gift.  I got those same robes for my girls btw 😜

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee

    Would you be offended/hurt if they opened the robe, smiled, said thank you, then put the robe back in the box to wear when they got home?   There’s just something about “thank you guys so much for all your love and support, here’s a gift to show you how much I appreciate you…now hurry up and put your ‘gift’ on, the photographer’s going to be here soon” that doesn’t say ‘gift’ to me.  That’s like saying my choir director from college “gifted” us the tshirts we were required to wear in our concerts because we didn’t pay for them.  Mandatory items are not gifts.  

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    What if one of them doesn’t want to wear a robe for photos? Would you be okay with that? I think one required outfit for the day is more than enough to ask. If the robe is truly just a gift and not a prop for photos, then you’re fine. 

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

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    kimberlypaige28:  If your BMs haven’t participated in weddings before, then I think they would find the robes really cute. If they have been in several wedding parties before, then I don’t think they would want another robe.

    I personally would never use a silk robe. A terry cloth one would be more practical for me. Also, I would probably not wear the earrings again since I don’t really want to wear something one of my friends might wear. 

    To be honest, before joining WB, I considered robes and all sorts of Pinterest items as gifts. But after joining WB, I feel conflicted. The general consensus has been, “If it’s for the wedding, it’s not a gift.” However, if the bride took care of the dress, shoes, hair, makeup, jewelry, etc., then I consider it sort of a gift. I would take the bride paying for everything over a personalized Bridesmaid or Best Man gift. So if you are giving it to your friends bc you think they will like it, then yeah, it’s a gift. 

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