Do Single Adults Need to Have a Plus One?

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 61
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Lake Louise Canada

Going alone to a destination blows. If you can drive home after then its reasonable but you’ll be bored and alone for days if not. This means that despite our guest list being under 50, everyone gets a plus one even if they haven’t dated in years. One guest is bringing his daughter and one is bringing a friend. I’ve never met these people but that’s what you do when you love your guests enough that you want them at the most important day of your life. Again I feel like a totally single adult who can just go home the same day after probably shouldn’t need a date for one night.

Post # 62
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Sugar bee

By single do you mean unmarried, or not dating someone? I didn’t want to give blanket plus ones to everyone because I think then sometimes people just bring a ‘date’ out of obligation. However anyone in a relationship I included their partner on the invite. I would also make exceptions for people if they asked because a) I didn’t know about their relationship or b)they don’t know many people at the wedding. 

Post # 63
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

redclouds228 :  

how far is your wedding? Time? How old are these people? If they’re old and worriedly about traveling alone, I think it’s different. 

Post # 64
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

redclouds228 :   how far is your wedding? Time? How old are these people? If they’re old and worriedly about traveling alone, I think it’s different. 

Post # 65
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488 posts
Helper bee

aliceandrews :  In a lot of places, including where I live, living together has the exact same legal status as being married, including for things like inheritance, splitting wealth in the event of separation, etc. But etiquette says you don’t have to invite couples who are “just” living together. So I don’t think legal status comes in to it. Anyway just because you are legally tied to someone doesn’t mean you can’t spend a few hours apart and chat to friends. 

Post # 67
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1149 posts
Bumble bee

A little late to the party…

I was invited to a Destination Wedding alone. Needless to say I didn’t go because the cost of going would have been too much (paying for a hote lroom alone and such). What would I do during the time we weren’t going to be attending the wedding? Itt would have been nice to have someone to go with.

If it was something local, I fall in the camp where everyone has the option to bring a plus one. I understand that some people wouldn’t be inclined to have a bunch of strangers at the wedding, but assumed that you invited someone you were close to, I find it quite hypocritical to ask them to come honor your relationship when you won’t honor theres. Maybe my opinion differs, but if you don’t care about them enough to honor their spouse, maybe they shouldn’t be at the wedding at all.

 

Post # 68
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

When we were planning out our guest list we automatically included +1 on any single person, which wasn’t many, to get an absolute accurate max headcount.  I personally think it’s nice to give a single person the option to bring a date, it can be awkward to attend alone unless you plan on attending with another friend(s) that’s also single and invited.  If the choose not to bring someone no harm no foul but at least you prepared.  I also wouldn’t ask to bring someone if I got an invite without “and guest” because I’m a reasonable person to know there was a reason and  I’d go it alone. 

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