(Closed) Do tell! What was the first time with your SO like?

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: How was the "first time sex" with your SO?

    It was bad, actually.

    It was ok, a little awkward.

    It was good.

    It was really great.

    It was the best sex I've ever had.

    This sounds bad, but I don't remember!

    We haven't had sex yet.

  • Post # 32
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    He was supposed to be my one and only fling. I tend to get attached, but since I met him on vacation and he lived across the ocean from me, I figured I should go for it…at least have one casual hookup since I was sure I wasn’t going to ever have to see him again.

    Then he pursued me and I fell for him. So much for no strings!

    Post # 33
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    It was AWFUL. I was a virgin and he’s… gifted and it did not go over well. We actually tried to do it multiple times before it ever actually happened because I was in so much pain. Mentally, I was ready for it and he took it really well and was really gentle with me. Finally I just took some ibuprofen and dealt with it, knowing it’d get better after the first time or so. 

    Needless to say, it did. So no problems now. But the first time was horrible. 

    Post # 34
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I was 16, he was 17, and we were both virgins. I had just gotten out of a bad “relationship” (don’t know if I would even call it that now) with a really pushy a-hole who kept trying to pressure me into having sex with him. I wouldn’t do it. 

    When I met SO, he never once pressured me. Everything was on my terms, when I was ready (he was ready for anything, mind you, so just being patient for me).

    We were at his parents house…it was my idea. We went up to his room (he wasn’t supposed to be in there with a girl and the door closed), and we went at it. It hurt, but I loved him and knew I was ready, so that made the pain worthwhile. 

    Annnd then his mom yelled up the stairs and we scrambled to find our clothes and everything was really awkward and funny at the same time.

    7 years later and it is still awkward to read my story as I was pretty young. It was definitely worth it though…especially with how great sex is now.

    Post # 35
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I dated him before and we never did the deed. Almost 10 years later we got back together. I actually said, “THIS is what Ive been missing all that time?!” Haha.

    Post # 36
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’ll also add that the first time we did the deed after we were married, it felt like it was our first time! It was the best feeling ever. πŸ™‚

     

    Post # 37
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My husband was actually my first and only… I didn’t set out with that goal in mind, it’s just how the cookie crumbled, lol. I didn’t have sex til I was 20 (I was nerdy in high school and didn’t date a whole lot, also my parents were strict and I was kind of terrified to date, haha), and I was HEAD OVER HEELS in love with my husband in college when we started seeing each other. It started with just fooling around, and then one night while we were going at it,  it, well, went in…and it was awesome. I was a virgin but it didn’t hurt or anything at all. It was totally great. Then we started going at it ALL THE TIME. Now we’re married. It’s pretty much the bomb. πŸ˜€

    Post # 38
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It was okay and a bit awkward, because we were in a car. πŸ™‚

    Post # 39
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Wedding night. First time for both of us. He was too quick and it hurt too much for him to get in far. So definitely mark me down as awkward. But it improved quickly! πŸ™‚

    Post # 40
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I lived at home and my parents were across the hall, so that was awkward. Neither of us had been with anyone for about six months, so that was awkward too. Aside from it being super awkward and not very enjoyable, I can’t really remember the details. He claims I was so not into it, I said “We should just stop,” but I have no recollection of this. I’m glad we gave it another go later on, ’cause it was much better. πŸ˜‰

    Post # 41
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My first time with my DH was forty two years after we first met. As I was very young when we first dated, we never had sex then. I then was with my ex forty years.

    When my hubby and I reunited, there was so much love and passion built up between up over forty years. It wasn’t sex. It was affirmation of a miracle, a love that endured for over forty years.

    Yes it was more than I ever imagined.

    Post # 42
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    It was passionate and sexy. It happened more than once. It was actually pretty incredible as sex goes.

    Post # 43
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We’d been dating for at least 4-5 months and I was spending the night at his house. It wasn’t my first time staying over but it was the first time we ended up having the “are we ready to take this to the next level?” conversation, and we were both agreeable to the idea, ha. The sex itself was kind of bad, actually. It was chilly in the room and I have to be really, really warm, with, say, the temperature above 70 and us snuggled up under the covers, during sex or I end up with lubrication issues, lol. But for some reason we were on top of the covers, not under them. So that didn’t help. And FI’s skin was FREEZING for some reason so that REALLY didn’t help! So it was kind of uncomfortable for me. Also, I don’t get off from sex at all, and in FI’s previous relationships it was difficult for him to get off from sex, too, so we ended up going at it for FOUR hours before we admitted defeat, haha. We also just had awkward rhythm with each other. The whole thing was awkward, lol. Thankfully it has gotten 1000x better since then!

    Post # 44
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    Busy bee

    It was the hottest most passionate sex I’ve ever had! I was totally shocked and am still speechless every time!

    Post # 45
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    It was our 2nd ‘sort of date’.  During our first date we left with him giving me a peak on the check, and made tentitive plans to go out the next week.  Later that week he texted me saying that he couldn’t wait and wanted to do something that weekend.  I got stuck babysitting my computer (was processing a ton of image files and needed to keep the computer awake), but i told him he was welcome to come over and keep me company.  He did, and picked out two movies to watch.  During the first movie we sat on opposite sides of the futon, for the second we got a little closer, and by the end of the night we were in my bed!  It was his first time and my second, so it was still very akward, but we made due.  

    Post # 46
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    Very awkward, we were both virgins, so it was over quickly, it didn’t hurt much. We were planning on doing it for the first time on our 1 year anniversary, I was on the pill but we decided to use condoms as well. We went through 3 condoms on the first time trying to get it to work. He couldn’t maintain an erection with them on, he was so nervous, then the next day we tried a couple more before giving up and just going ahead anyway. He pulled out before he climaxed though. Now we don’t use condoms, I am still on the pill though, so we’re well protected

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