(Closed) Do they call everyone Miss where you live?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ugh. Ma’am is the standard around here. A nice young man at a store first called me that. He couldn’t have been more than 4 years younger than me. I looked around like “who are you talking to?”.

Post # 18
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I see this a lot in my work, but generally we use the titles in the following ways:

Miss – young unmarried woman

Ms. (pronounced like “miz”) – is an honorary form of address.  In the legal field, all women are referred to in formal settings as Ms. so-and-so.

Mrs./Ma’am – are generally referred to as married women.  

Now that being said — I hate being called ma’am.  Although my future step-daughter put a fun spin on it as we count down to the wedding, I will be a ma’am when I am married.  But again, it just makes me feel old.

Post # 19
182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am also in MD and I think it’s pretty typical – Miss and ma’am. We’re below the Mason Dixon line after all:)  I don’t mind it at all, but I guess it can sound odd if you’re not used to it.

Post # 20
10649 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

The same as takemyhand, but I would use Miss before Ma’am.

If it’s someone I know I would just use their name, or if there was the need to be formal Mrs./Ms./Miss/Dr. Lastname depending on their title.  With coworkers, it is always Dr. Mr. or Ms.  never Miss or Mrs.

Post # 21
8036 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Pamelor55:  Aw I’d love to be called ‘Miss’ more! I hate the cold ‘Ms.’ and I feel so old when I get ‘Ma’am’.

Post # 22
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

It has to do with how people were addressed way back when

The “Miss first name” is how the unmarried daughter of a couple is addressed.  Boys are just addressed by their first name.

Ex: Mr. and Mrs. John Doe, along with Miss Jane and John

Post # 23
1086 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m in South Carolina, we call women Ma’am around here 🙂

Post # 24
3729 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

It is normal in MD. When my future nephews, the kid I tutor, and my contractor’s secretary all refer to me as Miss Erin, I cringe. When the doctor and various secretaries refer to me as Miss Pollywog it is strange. But after a year working for Maryland county government, I get that it is normal. So strange. But I like it WAY better than ma’am

Post # 25
350 posts
Helper bee

I’m in CO now and was working as a teacher and all the kids called me Miss! It would be Miss Lastname every once in a while or when I would see them in the hallway, but in class it was always “Miss, is this right? Miss! I need help! Miss, what are we supposed to do?” It was so weird to get used to. 

I have started getting ma’amed at stores sometimes. I’m only 25!

Post # 27
4690 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

I hear ma’am. And I’m 29. And I live in upstate NY where everyone is generally RUDE all the time. I only hear ma’am if someone really needs to get my attention, “MA’AM!!!! You forgot something…” “MA’AM, your coffee cup is on top of your car!!!!” “MA’AM, is this your wallet?”

Post # 28
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@lealorali:  Haha. Yeah, exactly. I am originally from Western NY and I never heard Miss or Ma ‘am until I moved to Richmond for a couple years. The first time I heard ma’am I was really upset because I thought they were being sarcastic. 


Post # 29
1723 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

Nah. It’s a mix in the Midwest, as far as my experiences go. Generally, I’m called “Mrs. CookieCreamCakes” if I’m with my boyfriend in a public setting. Otherwise, “Miss” or “Ma’am.”


Post # 30
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I live in the South and I’m called Ma’am all the time. It doesnt make me feel old, people are just being polite.

When I worked a job that involved a lot of customer interaction, I called everyone Ma’am or Sir, regardless of age. 

Post # 31
469 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Pamelor55:  As a respect thing, I always call a female mam or miss/ms. I’m 21, and if you’re my age or older that what I call you if I don’t know your name.  I know it makes some people feel old, but I do it mostly out of respect. =D

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