Post # 1
Hey Bees! Have any of you found yourselves in a similar situation? What did you do…
A friend of my future husband is getting married a few weeks before us, and we just got their save the date. We have a pretty big guest list (I have a really large family), but to be quite honest, they weren’t even on the list to begin with. They’re super nice, and very friendly, but we just can’t have everyone, you know the story…if we invite them, there’s about 10 other people we would feel obligated to invite. So anyway, my question is, do we have to invite them to ours just because we got invited to theirs? Also, do we go to theirs if we don’t invite them to ours? Because they are so close in timing, they would obviously know they weren’t invited to ours on the day of their wedding (where I hope they aren’t focusing on petty details like that)…
Thanks : )
Post # 3
No you don’t have to invite them. There is no law that states that you must invite people who invite you to their weddings.
It’s totally up to you if you want to go to their wedding. I would treat it as any normal wedding you’ve been invited to.
And they probably wouldn’t be able to attend your wedding anyways since yours is a couple of weeks after theirs. They might be honeymooning.
Post # 4
I agree. Fiance asked me the same question about a friends’ (well, his coworkers’) wedding we went to. He felt obligated to invite them just because we went to their wedding. I asked him this question: “Who would you rather see at your wedding – a good friend from college who is on the “B” list right now, since we’re havign a smallish wedding, or your coworker” His answer was obviously his good friend.
For example: The wedding you’re being invited to might have 500 guests, so everyone that the bride and groom know are invited. Where as your wedding has only 300, with just close friends and family. People will understand.
Post # 5
You do not have to invite them. Just be prepared for them to possibly ask why they are not invited. Since they are also planning a wedding they should totally understand that you can only have a certain number of people.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t feel obligated to invite them.
We were invited to 2 weddings this winter and went to one. We’re not inviting either of them to ours. They were never on our initial guest list (well they were on FI’s crazy list of 400 people) so I don’t see why we need to invite them when they had a big wedding and we’re having a small family wedding.