(Closed) do they get invited?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2701 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

No you don’t have to invite them. There is no law that states that you must invite people who invite  you to their weddings.

It’s totally up to you if you want to go to their wedding. I would treat it as any normal wedding you’ve been invited to.

And they probably wouldn’t be able to attend your wedding anyways since yours is a couple of weeks after theirs. They might be honeymooning.

Post # 4
2215 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@MlleBrielle:  I agree.  Fiance asked me the same question about a friends’ (well, his coworkers’) wedding we went to.   He felt obligated to invite them just because we went to their wedding.  I asked him this question: “Who would you rather see at your wedding – a good friend from college who is on the “B” list right now, since we’re havign a smallish wedding, or your coworker”  His answer was obviously his good friend.

For example: The wedding you’re being invited to might have 500 guests, so everyone that the bride and groom know are invited.  Where as your wedding has only 300, with just close friends and family.  People will understand.

Post # 5
412 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You do not have to invite them. Just be prepared for them to possibly ask why they are not invited. Since they are also planning a wedding they should totally understand that you can only have a certain number of people.

Post # 6
2231 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t feel obligated to invite them.

We were invited to 2 weddings this winter and went to one. We’re not inviting either of them to ours. They were never on our initial guest list (well they were on FI’s crazy list of 400 people) so I don’t see why we need to invite them when they had a big wedding and we’re having a small family wedding.

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