- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
I asked all of my bridesmaids to be bridesmaids about a month after Mr. Monkey and I got engaged – even though we are having a 2 year engagment. Perhaps I was a little antsy, but it is what it is!
I asked two friends from college (I graduated 6 years ago), one of which had me as a BM in her wedding and one of which has yet to get married. They both have young children, and live on the opposite side of state. I haven’t seen them since the married friend’s wedding (3 years ago). I’m bad about calling, or emailing, and so are they, so we’ve kind of fell apart. But, we were so close in college that I thought it was great to have them as BMs.
Now, for the completely inpersonal part, I asked them to be BMs over…Facebook. I know, I know. That was the last time I “talked” to either of them. I’m always nervous to call them to talk because I don’t know what’s going on in their lives, and I don’t have kids so I’m kind of awkward there, but I know I need to call them.
But they also aren’t talking to me – about anything, not just wedding stuff. I just wonder if they said yes because they didn’t want to be rude and say no? How do I kindly ask if they are still interested, and give them an out if they would just prefer to be a guest? I know it’s costly to be a BM (been there!), so I don’t want them to do it if they don’t feel close to me any more.
I know that I have to reach out to them first, so I have to stop feeling weird and call them…ah, I hate feeling awkward!
Any advice is appreciated! Thanks, Bees!