(Closed) Do u genuinely believe everybody is going to love everything about your wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

HA! Are you kidding? I didn’t even like everything about my wedding! There were so many things I wish I could have done/ not done/ done differently. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Nope haha. I have an aunt who I know will critique everything! Her daughter is 18 and got married way before me. I am 21. My aunt was not happy with her daughter’s early marriage. Her daughter is also not in school anymore. So her mom is very critical of me, because her daughter did not do things in the”correct order”. So I know she will not like anything about my wedding!  

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

the difference is i doubt anybody would be as crass as to start numerous threads on the internet bashing me and my personal choices.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Everyone who attended my wedding LOVED it and thought it was perfect… Of course, the only people who attended were me and my husband, so that might have something to do with it.

I don’t think you can expect every one to like everything about your wedding.  However, I think that the old adage, “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all” is a good philosophy to adopt when it comes to talking about someone else’s wedding… 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

My extended family isn’t super critical of weddings. Our friends love us too much to say anything bad about it, and my immediate family is helping plan it, so I already know what they think. Honestly, I really do think everyone is going to have a good time and I can’t imagine people bashing it openly. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

To be honest, I don’t know and I am not really worried.  I want them to be happy- but what is most important to me is that me, my fiance and our kids have a blast!

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I think if the ceremony didn’t go to long, there was good food and booze and the music was catchy, people don’t care. Your friends and relatives are not going to be running home to write on the internet “Ugh, did you see her bouquet? Hideous! Couldn’t they afford good flowers?” Or “You know, I really expected the bride to be more fashion forward, but I think she bought her dress off the rack… ugh” or “Why did she wear so much eyeliner on the bottom lid? Did she do her makeup in a closet?”

You get my point. 99% of the time guests are just happy to be invited and eating and drinking on your dime.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Of course they will! Everyone will talk about it for years as being the best night of their lives, and they will want to relive it over and over again via the photos, video, and reminiscing about it every time we see each other after that.

Ha, just kidding. Of course they won’t love everything. More to the point, I don’t think they will even CARE about most things, like the decorations I’m agonizing over or the color of the linens. But you don’t really do most of those things just for your guests, do you? You do them for you and your Fiance. I think as long as you show your guests common courtesy, like not making them wait hours and hours, and giving them good food, drink, and some entertainment, that’s all they really want or care about. If they can remember and comment positively on one or two other things, then fantastic. If not, oh well.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

hmmm, thats a tough one. I’m not uptight so when things go wrong or are not perfect, I don’t fly off the handle. I realize not everyone is like this and will critique anything you do. For the most part though, I do believe everyone we invited loved everything at our wedding. We invited these people because we love them and we know they love us so they’re not going to nitpick that the color of the napkins didn’t match the color of the cake or the carrots were too salty or whatever. The only person that complained was my DH’s mother but she complains about everything.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Absolutely not!  But I will be happy with it years to come.  They are my photos to look back on with FH.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

of course i loved it when my friends/guests told me how much they loved my wedding, but i am sure there were things they didnt care about or if it was their choice, they would have chosen differently. but i dont care. I was happy with everything and thats all that really matters at the end of the day!

in fact, when i was planning my wedding, i did not really consult with my friends and family too much on anything (i had the bee!), but i also didnt want them telling me i shouldnt do something i want or bringing me down in any way – as it happened a couple of times in the beginning, so my solution was to stop telling them details!

Post # 14
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121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am fine with everyone, or even most, not liking things at our wedding. But I would appreciate in the planning process if people could just not say that they don’t like something (repeatedly). If you are trying to be helpful, propose other ideas, state that it looks good but is not your style, etc. OR don’t say anything.

We are planning a casual wedding, Future Mother-In-Law thinks it should be formal, and is making her opinions clear. Hopefully, she will accept it at some point.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

oh HELLLLLL TO THE EFFIN NO… His mom thinks we are nuts to have a Vow Renewal!  She totally Pshaw’ed me when I told her about it and said “thats a stupid idea, why”  I explained to her… she still didn’t get it…  read further to understand.

first off, we have been married 18 years… which is funny cuz no one thought it would last.  There were 6 other couples that married within the same couple year period as we did, they are all divorced, some remarried (yay, happy for them) some not (by choice, happy for them too) but we are still going strong after all we have been through…

we have been through all the vows, richer/poorer (lost everything when economy crashed hubbie got laid off), better/worse (death of his dad, my mom, a baby, economy crash, lost everything, drug addicted daughter, autistic son), sickness/health (dealing with that now, have had 2 surgeries in the last 6 months)

My Mother-In-Law has hated me from the beginning, but she really needs to get over herself! seriously, its been 18 years and ALOT of vows…  ups downs, back forths, etc…  I aint going anywhere. 

that is why we are renewing our vows.  you cannot please everyone.  so just focus on pleasing #1, which is you two, as a couple.  forever and ever…

our original invitation read (and our renewal invitation will read)

two lives, two hearts, joined together in friendship, united forever in love.  This is FOREVER:)  and I am happy, even though his mom is not.

As long as you and him are happy, nothing else matters:)

Good luck

Ronney

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Nope. Not a chance.

If I keep changing my mind, then what chance have I got of all the guests liking it?

Ive now decided to only tell a few people about the details of the wedding thus far because quite frankly I dont want them telling me they dont like it when the reason I wanted it in the first place is that I DO like it!

Not that Im not trying to please everyone…Im having meals that i think most people will like (buffets are the norm on my side of the family so they normally just pick and choose what they want) I’m providing a bus so that people can’t complain about travelling from the church to the venue etc etc etc.

Of course I would love everyone to love every detail of the wedding, but honestly I dont think they will notice most things! Im currently trying to choose table linen, they wont even register that it was an issue for me and my Fiance. They certainly wont appreciate the time and effort that will go into seating arrangements and Im sure there will be someone who thinks they could have done a better job!

Im a bit obsessed with the little details at the moment, the stationary, the wooden signs, the centrepieces (OK so in my head they are very important) but I have yet to decide on songs and vows for our ceremony! Im hoping that each guest will notice at least one of these little details and remember that…it will be worth it then right?!

The most important thing though is that its what my Fiance and I want, and you know what, I think it will be.

Im not sure what im worried about really, I was blown away when we visited our venue for the first time (and everytime since) and I really cant see how our guests wont feel the same. (Those of you who want to can see my bio about it here)

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