(Closed) Do UK brides wait longer???

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: What's your nationality and how long we're you together before engagement?
    US, 0-3 years before proposal : (22 votes)
    27 %
    Canadian, 0-3 years before proposal : (6 votes)
    7 %
    UK,0-3 years before proposal : (9 votes)
    11 %
    Aus, 0-3 years before proposal : (0 votes)
    An other, 0-3 years before proposal : (1 votes)
    1 %
    US, 3-5 years : (12 votes)
    15 %
    Canadian, 3-5 years : (3 votes)
    4 %
    UK, 3-5 years : (6 votes)
    7 %
    Aus, 3-5 years : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    114 posts
    Blushing bee

    I think you’re right, well it certainly seems that way to me from the boards and my own experience and friend’s experiences.

    I’m in the UK and we’ve been together for 9 years, we’re 30 and not many of our friends are married. I guess it depends on the relationship wherever you are but it def seems to me like UK brides wait longer!

    I wonder why tho?! I think maybe a money thing and more people having children first perhaps.  Pah, who knows, if I knew the answer I probably wouldn’t be in this position!!

    Post # 4
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    9115 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Curious. I’d like to see some stastics on this sort of thing, if one group (Aussie/UK/Canadian/US for example) “waits” longer than the other. I wonder what the causes could be, if something like this proves to be true? Maybe a cultural thing, or perhaps the “standards” for raising someone? Hum.

    Post # 5
    Member
    240 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    We Dutchies wait longer too or never get married, it’s more accepted.

    Post # 7
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    1095 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’m curious to see the results of the poll. I think that here in the US/Canada weddings are so fetichized which may explain why people tend to get married sooner.

    Post # 8
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    9115 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @Wonderfully:  I think analytically, so stats really interest me! Not a loser, at all.

    I voted. For me, we started dating in May, proposal by October & married in December, so we were together 8 months before getting married. We’re also in the US, but we’re military as well, so there’s a small factor in that, too. (Health care, benefits, higher pay rate when married, etc.)

    Post # 10
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    1564 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think this is true! I’ll compare myself (US) with my stepsiblings who are from the UK.

    My Darling Husband and I were engaged after 2.5 years together and we got married at around the 4 year mark.

    My stepbrother just proposed to his girlfriend at their 5 year anniversary and they won’t be getting married for another two years so they will have been together for 7 years before marriage.

    My stepsister also recently got engaged and she has been dating her SO for around 5 years as well. They are also waiting a couple years before getting married.

    Post # 11
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    240 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    There is no poll option for me but we got engaged after 7,5 years.

    Post # 12
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    5009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Darling Husband proposed to me after 21 months and we were married after 37 months. Not too long. 

    I think part of the reason that couples take longer to get married in the UK and some other countries than in the US is because there is less religious guilt about living together and having kids before getting married.

    Post # 13
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    1030 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’m UK and my friend got engaged at 2 years and everyone was like “too soon!! too soon!!”

    We got engaged at 4 and a half, will be married at 5 and a half 🙂

    Post # 14
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    748 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    What an interesting poll! My husband and I were together for about four and a half years before he proposed. We got married a few weeks before what would have been our six year “dating anniversary”. So, we might be a bit outside of the norm as far as US bees go.

    Post # 15
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    1979 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I’m hoping to be engaged before our 3 year anniversary, but we will see! I am from the US, but I have several friends who dated over 10 years before getting engaged.  I think many couples are getting engaged at older ages generally, but would be interested in seeing the stats!

    Post # 16
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    442 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I live in the UK and we got engaged on our third anniversary. We’d been leaving together for 20 months when he proposed. My Fiance is in his mid-thirties, but I’m 8 years younger. 

    I think it’s quite unusual for UK couples to get married within 3 years of meeting each other, maybe there is no taboo or social stigma surrounding premarital sex and cohabiting?

     

    I know one couple who married 18 months after meeting, but they are the exception rather than the rule. They had already bought a house together before getting engaged, and both are in their mid-thirties.

    This couple I work with recently got married after 5 months together. The general consensus in the office is that it’s a bad idea to get married so soon after meeting.

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