(Closed) Do we but the BM jewelry?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Most brides will usually buy the BMs jewelry to wear of the wedding day as their gift to them. However, I’m not really a fan of this because it ends up being a gift for you more than the BMs, as they’ll probably never wear it again.

I would say don’t buy them jewelry, and let them pick their own, if they want to wear any at all. And then buy them something they’ll actually use as their thank you gift, like gift certificates for massages or individual gifts you know they’ll love for each of their personalities.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

IMO if you’re requiring them to wear something, and it costs more than about $20, you should pay for it (and not call it their gift). They already had to buy the dress, right?

There are certainly brides though who request that their bridesmaids buy the dress, shoes, jewelry and pay to have hair and make up done. It’s kind of a personal and budgetary preference.

For us, we just asked the girls to wear whatever jewelry and shoes they want, and offered to book hair and make up if they want – two are going for it, one will do her own.

Post # 5
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6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

You don’t have to buy their jewelry. But many brides include jewelry in the Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts.

If you are going to insist that they buy something specific on your day I suggest that you buy it for them. If you aren’t going to buy them any jewelry I would allow them to wear whatever they want for jewelry (you can obviously set some guidelines if you like).

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I didn’t buy the jewelry my bridesmaid’s wore but I also told them they could wear whatever they wanted, so most didn’t buy anything new.  I agree that if you require them to wear something specific then you should pay for it and not call it part of their gift.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I bought my BMs their jewelry and that also served as my gift to them. Simple but elegant pearl pendants and matching earrings (Overstock.com) But then again, I also bought their dresses, which only cost $35 per.

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