- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2016
I am Fernanda, Brazilian and my fiance is Texan. We are getting married in the US and I am doing my best to be familiar with wedding receptions & ceremonies in the US.
I am starting to freak out because since we got engaged I told him that I would be happy with just have a cake and a champagne toast. I am still in Brazil waiting on my fiancee visa to be granted. (Yeah, that one that I will have 90 days to get married otherwise I must leave the country). So, I am trying to plan things from here. But, not being able to be there to check the venue, have an appointment with the florists and other vendors , it is crazy.
I have some bridesmaids in the US, they said they would help me with anything I need. But, I know that everyone is busy with their own lives. And I dont want to be counting on them for everything. Somethings I could, but others I think only the bride could be really able to decide.
Anyway, after talking to him last night. He asked me to write exactly what I would like to do. He said he doesnt want to force me to have a huge wedding and a big party if I wont be happy with that.
I know some women probably wish they were in my place, that they had a fiance who wanted a huge party and etc. I couldnt sleep last night thinking over that. I mean, trying to understand what is wrong with me. But, I guess that because I am not there and I will arrive 20 days before our wedding day I cant control things and it is so hard to plan a wedding overseas…Besides this I am moving to the US as well. Lots of changes. I already quit my job to be able just to focus on that. Anyways…. I guess I am a bit confused and confusing you, girls.
Well, my idea is to have our ceremony and have a champagne toast and the cake. And have a dinner with only our bridal party, family and friends who are coming from all over the US and Brazil.
In Brazil it would be rude to have a ceremony and not to invite everyone to our reception. Please, could you tell me if in the US I could do that or would that be a problem?
And could you please tell me if you think I am overacting? I am doing my best not be anxious and not drive my fiance crazy, either.
I REALLY need your help, girls!