(Closed) Do we have to invite them?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do we have to invite them?
    Yes, absolutely necessary : (1 votes)
    3 %
    No, not necessary : (28 votes)
    88 %
    You would, but because our guest list is so small we can get away with not : (3 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    7739 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Did Mark invite the whole “gang” from University?

    Post # 4
    2556 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I think you can leave them off of your guest list.  Just because they invited you doesn’t mean you have to extend the same courtesy – especially since you said you’re not inviting anyone else from your old circle.  Maybe you can have a B list and have them on that list?

    Post # 6
    7739 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @princess_r:  Then I think it’s a fairly safe “no”. I was going to say no anyway, but the fact that they invited everyone from Uni, and you’re inviting no one else from Uni, pretty well clinches it for me.

    I invited my closest uni friends (4 girls). The last one to marry didn’t invite me even though we’d hardly spoken in the 3 or so years since my wedding, and I’d never met her fiance. Yes it hurt a little, but I realised the close friendship had run its course and I got over it.

    Post # 7
    11356 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    There is no etiquette rule that requires you to invite to your wedding everyone who invited you to theirs.  I was invited to the weddings of all of my close friends in college.  When I married in 2009 — 25 years after we graduated, I only invited three of those couples — my best friend and those others who had maintained contact with me at least once a year over all of that time.  It wasn’t that I did not want to invite the others.  In fact, I would have loved to have seen them.  However, due to space limitations, I opted to limit my guest list to those with whom I felt I had an ongoing, current relationship.

    Ironically, about seven or eight months after my wedding, I finally joined FB and have now reconnected with all but one of those close friends from college.

    Post # 8
    2262 posts
    Buzzing bee

    You don’t need to and don’t feel guilty about that. Its been a significant while since you’ve last seen each other and I think they wouldn’t even mind much if they weren’t invited. Maybe invite them if you have space, if you really want

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