- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Fiance has two cousins (brother and sister) one is a girl and she is 20, her brother is like 22. Her brother has a girlfriend of more than 3 years who lives with him at his parents house. She lives there out of circumstances (had nowhere else, his parents’ weren’t going to let her live on the streets). The family doesn’t like her and Fiance and I don’t like her either. But I feel etiquette dictates we invite her because she lives with him.
The girl cousin also has a boyfriend, they do not live together. They have been together for less then a year, but dated before early in high school. The family likes him, but we have only met him once briefly and won’t likely meet him again before the wedding. I feel like if we invite her brother’s girlfriend though, we MUST also invite her boyfriend.
We would really rather not invite either of them, as we don’t know them well and are haivng a smallish (100 people) wedding. I’m not really worried about offending the cousins, they aren’t the type to be upset or take it personally. But I don’t want to offent FI’s aunt. We were thinking of calling her and asking her what she thinks about this as she may not care if they are not invited, especially if we ask her first. Is that rude of us? How would you, or did you handle BF/GF of younger (but not kids) family?
P.S. We are not inviting our single friends with +1s. We have explained that we simply can’t afford for them to bring a random friend to the wedding and they will all know lots of people, and they were all okay with this. So, it’s not as though these two cousins would be the only ones denied a plus one.