Post # 1
I sent out save the dates back in November for my wedding. My fiance wanted to invite all of his close co-workers, so we made sure they got Save-The-Date Cards. Since then, one co-worker has quit the company and no longer speaks to my Fiance. Part of why he quit is because my Fiance was pointing out his work flaws to higher management (which is part of his job). Needless to say, this former employee doesn’t think favorably of my Fiance. I know that everyone who gets a STD is supposed to get an invitation, but Fiance feels strongly that we not send him one. Is that okay considering the circumstances?
Post # 3
@Bichon Frise: as you know, the answer is normally “yes”, bit i think in this case you can forgo the invite. sounds like things would get awkward if this person showed up
Post # 4
I would normally say you would need to, but I think it’s okay under this circumstance. It seems it will go unnoticed anyways.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t bother sending an invitation in this case.
Post # 6
I def wouldnt send an invite it would be strange if he showed up.
Post # 7
Yes, in this case I think you’re in the clear.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
agreed with PP-you get a pass on this one. 🙂
Post # 9
Agree! The unforgiveable now is! ;o)
Post # 10
Thanks everyone! I was worried it would look bad if we skipped the invite, but it looks like that’s the best choice.
Post # 11
Im having the same dilemma with some extended family members as well! Ugh what a headache. I completely regret doing STD’s
Post # 12
i don’t think you need to send an invite in this case 🙂
Post # 13
@Bichon Frise: No it is never ok.
You have in fact already invited these people. The formal invite is just the details once you send the STD.
Good news, is that if the relationship has deteriorated as much, it is unlikely that this person will actually come.
Post # 14
@Bichon Frise: don’t invite him. you said yourself they’re no longer on speaking terms. that would just be awkward and a waste of a stamp!