Post # 1
FI’s grandmother has Alzheimer’s disease and is bed-ridden. She doesn’t leave the house and doesn’t get out of bed unless it’s to eat. Should we still include her on the invitation or just address it to FI’s grandfather?
Post # 3
I would address it to both, perhaps you can put a little note in the card for your grandfather which says that yo understand grandma prob wont be able to come but that you wanted to include her on the invite.
Post # 4
I’d invite her. After all she’s still alive, just not “with us”. I don’t know what etiquette dictates though. The likelyhood is she wont come I assume, but perhaps you could follow it up with a phonecall to FIs grandfather? Saying that you understand it may not be practical for her to come, but that you’re thinking of her.
Post # 5
@BoiledPNut: invite everyone who’s invited. it would be hurtful to her and grandfather. my grandmother has alz too but she has small windows where she knows who everyone around her is…even though she thinks it’s 1980!