- 8 years ago
We are getting married later this year. My uncle (also godfather) and his wife got mad at my parents years ago, for some dumbass reason that they have decided not to repair. My dad tried many times to make amends. Now they only see each other at required family events, and weddings/funerals.
This uncle, when he got mad at my parents, also stopped communication with me and my brother. As a matter of fact, I havent’ seen him in years. And I would not recognize his wife either.
We are undecided on whether or not they should be invited to the wedding. One thought is that he is family, and should be invited. We should be above his dispicable behaviour and be ‘big enough’ to invite him just because he is family.
The other thought is that since he chose, as an adult, to stop having a relationship with me when I was very young, because he was mad with my parents, that he doesn’t deserve to be invited. However, if he is not invited, it might cause a bigger problem with the rest of the family, who he gets along with.
We don’t want to cause bigger problems by not inviting him and getting other family members upset, yet he hasn’t been a part of my life. He probably doesn’t even know that I’m getting married yet. We send out save the dates, but did not send one to him
Curious to see what other folks thoughts are on this…