Post # 1
There is a couple that is friends with a couple of our friends. We are barely friends with them, we barely see them. We didn’t send them save the dates and we weren’t ever planning on inviting them to our wedding. They got engaged before us and we have only seen them maybe once since. And haven’t seen them at all since we got engaged.
We weren’t ever expecting an invitation from them but then we got one!!
So now what ???????? Do you invite them to our wedding?????
Maybe wait and see how big their wedding is and use the “our wedding is smaller” excuse???? HELP PLEASE!!!
Post # 3
nah, i wouldn’t invite them just because they invited you.
Post # 5
You don’t have to invite them if you don’t want to 🙂 This might be a case of them thinking the relationship is closer than you think, or they are having a pretty big wedding and invited everyone they know. Either way, you’re still not under any obligation.
Post # 6
If I have to invite everyone that invited me to their 400 person wedding, I would be out of money. I wouldn’t invite them unless they are close to you and they would be missed.
Post # 7
You don’t have to invite everyone who invites you to their wedding. Otherwise only all the same people would be attending every wedding, or else weddings would get gigantic in numbers.
Post # 8
I would do it but you def don’t have to…so don’t sweat it!
Post # 9
Invitations aren’t issued because someone invited you to their function. But if you don’t feel close to them then I think you should decline their invite.
If you had to invite everyone I’d have invited a bunch of single celebrities to my wedding so that they would have to invite me to theirs and I could meet hot stars.
Post # 11
You don’t have to invite them just because they invited you. But even if you were close, people’s situations differ. You say you *might* be having a smaller wedding, you have more family, or whatever. Sometimes you can’t fit everyone in, and people *should* understand that
Post # 12
I would, but that’s just me. I like to be inclusive… Especially if it wasn’t a big issue of money or space.
Post # 13
Yes, an invitation needs to be returned, unless you want to snub this couple and put an end to their attempts to develop a friendship with you. No, the return invitation does not need to be an invitation to your wedding. You can invite them over for dinner or take them out to dinner at a restaurant, or call them up when you have an extra pair of theatre tickets. You can return their invitation any time over the next six months or so.
But if you don’t return it at all, it looks like you don’t want to accept their friendship, and that could create awkwardness with your mutual friends as well.
Post # 14
No you don’t, if you feel weird about it just turn down the invite. I have been to so many weddings over the last few years. Some of them are causal friends who I like very much, and also people who are friends of friends, they invited me to their wedding. If I invited all those people to our wedding, I would have to end up cutting close friends. I have some family members who aren’t getting an invite to my wedding, and it wouldn’t be fair to invite random causal friends before them.
Post # 15
No…invitations aren’t tit for tat. I wouldn’t.
Post # 16
I would just because my motto is “the more the merrier!” but only if space and money are not an issue. Honestly, I would be a tad hurt if I invited someone to my wedding and I was not invited to theirs. I know it’s silly but it’s how I would feel just the same,
But at the end of the day it’s YOUR wedding and YOU choose who to invite and who to not invite. Don’t feel obligated.