(Closed) Do we invite them to our wedding???

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Invite them ??



  • Post # 3
    3930 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    nah, i wouldn’t invite them just because they invited you.

    Post # 4
    435 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012


    Post # 5
    671 posts
    Busy bee

    You don’t have to invite them if you don’t want to 🙂 This might be a case of them thinking the relationship is closer than you think, or they are having a pretty big wedding and invited everyone they know. Either way, you’re still not under any obligation.

    Post # 6
    2560 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    If I have to invite everyone that invited me to their 400 person wedding, I would be out of money. I wouldn’t invite them unless they are close to you and they would be missed.

    Post # 7
    30392 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    You don’t have to invite everyone who invites you to their wedding. Otherwise only all the same people would be attending every wedding, or else weddings would get gigantic in numbers.

    Post # 8
    1417 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I would do it but you def don’t have to…so don’t sweat it!

    Post # 9
    2152 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Invitations aren’t issued because someone invited you to their function. But if you don’t feel close to them then I think you should decline their invite.

    If you had to invite everyone I’d have invited a bunch of single celebrities to my wedding so that they would have to invite me to theirs and I could meet hot stars.

    Post # 11
    3274 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    You don’t have to invite them just because they invited you.  But even if you were close, people’s situations differ.  You say you *might* be having a smaller wedding, you have more family, or whatever.  Sometimes you can’t fit everyone in, and people *should* understand that

    Post # 12
    518 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I would, but that’s just me. I like to be inclusive… Especially if it wasn’t a big issue of money or space.

    Post # 13
    1094 posts
    Bumble bee

    Yes, an invitation needs to be returned, unless you want to snub this couple and put an end to their attempts to develop a friendship with you. No, the return invitation does not need to be an invitation to your wedding. You can invite them over for dinner or take them out to dinner at a restaurant, or call them up when you have an extra pair of theatre tickets. You can return their invitation any time over the next six months or so.

    But if you don’t return it at all, it looks like you don’t want to accept their friendship, and that could create awkwardness with your mutual friends as well.


    Post # 14
    2623 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    No you don’t, if you feel weird about it just turn down the invite. I have been to so many weddings over the last few years. Some of them are causal friends who I like very much, and also people who are friends of friends, they invited me to their wedding. If I invited all those people to our wedding, I would have to end up cutting close friends. I have some family members who aren’t getting an invite to my wedding, and it wouldn’t be fair to invite random causal friends before them.

    Post # 15
    339 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    No…invitations aren’t tit for tat.  I wouldn’t.

    Post # 16
    1248 posts
    Bumble bee

    I would just because my motto is “the more the merrier!” but only if space and money are not an issue. Honestly, I would be a tad hurt if I invited someone to my wedding and I was not invited to theirs. I know it’s silly but it’s how I would feel just the same,

    But at the end of the day it’s YOUR wedding and YOU choose who to invite and who to not invite. Don’t feel obligated.

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