(Closed) Do we NEED a rehearsal?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner?
    Yes! You need to make sure everyone knows the routine and doesn't look like a fool : (26 votes)
    53 %
    Yes! It's just nice to have your bridal party together for dinner teh day before : (6 votes)
    12 %
    No! With simple weddings you can just wing it : (7 votes)
    14 %
    No! As long as you give everyone a detailed description of what to do before hand : (10 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
    4001 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    If you go over what little is expected of everyone beforehand, I think you can do without the rehearsal.  Its basically meant for the more complicated ceremonies.  I definitely had to do mine because the ceremony was so complex, even though it was only 20 minutes, but it was mainly due to the aisle being winding stairs then a winding path then a split canopy- confusing!  When planning I wanted to save some money for my family by not doing it.  However, it turned out to be a fun time.  So, if you do it, it’ll really be for the purpose of hanging out together, before the actual event.  And it doesn’t have to be formal at all.  Pizza and drinks would work just as well as a formal sit down meal. 

    Post # 4
    593 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I had a really short ceremony too (10-15 minutes) but I still found the rehearsal to be useful. You don’t really go through the ceremony itself, it’s more so everyone knows where to be and when to walk. 

    Also, if you are prone to anxiety like me….It took a lot of weight off my shoulders knowing that we all knew where to be and what to do in those crazy moments before we walked down the aisle. Instead of frantically wondering “what am I supposed to do?” five minutes before the ceremony was set to start, I was instead thinking “LET’S GOOOO!” 

    Post # 5
    2111 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We had a very short, simple ceremony but I still think its a good idea to do a rehearsal. The biggest thing for us, was letting everyone know where they should be, how fast they should walk up the aisle, where they should stand, etc… we ran thru it twice and I felt a lot better after doing it.

    You dont have to have a dinner though. Or you could have everyone over for pizza or a BBQ.

    Post # 7
    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would just have a meeting with everyone the night before the explain things.

    Post # 8
    751 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    We had one that was short and simple,  but for us it wasn’t really about rehearsing since everyone pretty much knew what to do.  For us it was a chance for everyone to hang out and get to know each other.  We kicked things off with cocktails for about an hour before.  I made little nametags for everyone with their name and role in the wedding because while my husband and I knew everyone, for many of them it was their first time meeting.  It sounds cheesy, but they loved it.   We mingled, handed out gifts, and in general got to spend a lot of quality time with those most intimately involved in the wedding.   The rehearsal worked out any kinks we had and then it was off to dinner and, well, more cocktails.   It was really fun so I have to recommend it.  It doesn’t have to be some big formal thing. 

    Post # 9
    2866 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think it’s a good idea regardless of how simple your ceremony is. It lets you work out any little issues that you might not have thought of beforehand and it lets people know when things are happening.

    You don’t have to actually DO the whole ceremony but you need to know the order of events so you know when to get your rings from your wedding party and how you’re going to exit, etc. It just makes everything run smoother.


    Post # 10
    3316 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    As far as I can make out, Jewish ceremonies never have rehearsals.  And there doesn’t seem to be any excessive falling over our own feet in spite of that.  😉

    Post # 11
    597 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    @2dBride: my friend who had a jewish ceremony, had a rehearsal!!

    anyways, to reduce anxiety I suggest a rehearsal, as others pointed out. You don’t want your groom freaking out with an anxiety attack beforehand/during ceremony…..at least that’s why I am for sure having one! He gets weird when he gets anxiety.

    Post # 12
    248 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    We are not having a rehearsal, mostly because we have to pay to have one at our venue and we don’t think it’s worth the cost. We will be having a groom’s dinner the night before and will fill everyone in on everything then. It’s pretty straight forward and most people have been in a wedding before so I think it will be just fine! Even if we did have a rehearsal, people could still do something wrong so it’s not like rehearsing will prevent anything out of order from happening!

    Post # 13
    287 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    we are having one because its a jewish ceremony and Fiance and his family are chinese and have never been to/seen a jewish ceremony and there are certain things that are different. our officiant will not be there though – our planner will run it.

    i think its a good idea so everyone knows when to walk and where and how you’re pairing up your bridal party for the recessaional, stuff like that.

    do i think its totally necessary and the wedding will be a mess without it? no.

    Post # 14
    1254 posts
    Bumble bee

    You know I always planned on having a rehearsal/welcome dinner (we are including folks traveling from OOT) but you make a good point. Mine will most probably be 10 minutes long and my Fiance and I will be sharing our own written vows that I want to keep special for the next day anyway. But the others make excellent points too about people knowing where to sit/walk. But I think the dinner is a good way for people to get together and set the tone for the next 24 hours. One last hurrah before the big day. I think it’s good to have a dinner the day before the wedding but not necessarily a rehearsal.

    Post # 15
    135 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @2dBride:  thats absolutely right. My FI’s cousin is a rabbi and will be doing our ceremony. All of the family understands whats expected and what traditions go with a traditional jewish ceremony. 

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