Post # 1
We initially agreed with the venue to serve three entrees for our reception. After talking with the coordinator, I have a feeling they’re only going to let us select two entrees. Do we need to offer a veggie meal for all guests, or are we okay to just offer a “meal” for those with dietary restrictions/allergies? The venue will accommodate this, just might not let us offer three different entrees up front to everyone. Is it ok to offer two entrees (chicken and beef), and have those guests who need it specify if they need a veggie/allergy meal?
Post # 2
yes that’s what we did. and that’s what i see 99% of the time at weddings as well.
we did crabcake and filet. then anyone who needed the vegetarian just let us know.
Post # 3
Depending on what’s available I would have one veggie option and one meat option, for everyone. At my wedding we had a beef steak option and a vegetarian pasta option and a lot of people who weren’t vegetarians chose the pasta as it just sounded really good and was a lighter option than the meat.
Post # 4
Yes we did this, had a meat and seafood option. we only had 2/85 guests vegetarian so they got the vegetarian special (it was at a restaurant).
Post # 5
I don’t see any issue with offering two different meat options, and then have anyone specify if they need a veggie/allergy option. You’re still accommodating everyone. Plus this is usually how I see it done at weddings. I think two options for everyone who doesn’t need a veggie/special meal is plenty.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2025 - City, State
It’s fine as long as you ask people (on the response card) to let you know about any dietary restrictions. If you just list chicken and beef without any mention of special accommodations, people will feel awkward asking. Just add a line saying “Please list any dietary restrictions. Vegetarian and allergen-free meals will be provided upon request” – second sentence optional – and you’ll be all set.
Post # 7
It’s pretty standard for a caterer to allow you to have two options (two meats or one meat and one fish) and a silent vegetarian option (if you’re collecting meal info from your rsvps you can give them the veg number. If not, they should know how to average vegetable options based on overall guest count). Maybe ask if that’s an option?
Post # 8
fourthnoel : that’s totally normal. just make sure you ask for any dietary restrictions on yor RSVP cards so that you know who need special meals!
Post # 9
If they agreed to have 3, they should provide 3. But tbh I don’t really get how what you’re asking is any different than it would have been initally. Dont most places do beef/chicken/veggie as options? And you’re still offering beef/chicken, and then people specify if they need a vegetarian?
Post # 10
Yes please put a note please comment here any dietary restrictions and accomodations can be made I know someone who is vegan who went to a wedding that only had a vegetarian option and she was STARVING I felt so bad 🙁 (the vegetarian option was loaded with cheese)
Post # 11
jellybellynelly : we were going to have three meals on our RSVP card – beef, veggie, and chicken. Now we may just do beef, chicke, dietary/allergy. Which I guess is the same thing, but I think it will assuade non-veggie guests from requesting a veggie meal just because. Whereas if we added it as an option, we could have guests picking the veggie meal just because. So I wanted to double check it was ok if it was available for those who need it, but not necessarily a straight up option for every guest.
Post # 12
I think you should have a veggie choice for everyone’s, I hate having to request a special vegetarian dish like its some crazy restrictive diet which isn’t the case anymore, there’s so many people that don’t eat meat now! Not to mention meat eaters can still eat the veggie option but the veggies can’t eat the meat option.
Post # 13
I’ve seen this happen so often with pizzas at work parties. They will order multiples of pepperoni, hawanian, double tripple meat explosion, and like one veggie. Then all the meat eaters, along with their meat pizzas, start taking a slice of the veggie pizza, cause who the hell knows why .. maybe vegetables actually taste good, and by the time the vegetarians get to the veggie pizza there’s none left.
Post # 14
I think that’s the norm. If you know at least 20-25% of your guests are vegan/vegetarian, maybe having your second entree be veg would be nice. But if you’re trying to accommodate just a few veg guests, let them request a special meal. That’s what I’m used to doing and it always works out fine.
Post # 15
almax : this happens so much! Haha.