(Closed) Do we need to say “dry reception” on the invites?

posted 8 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Do we mention "dry reception" on the invitations?
    Of course not--their attendance, ideally, should not be conditional on booze : (50 votes)
    64 %
    Maybe... : (5 votes)
    6 %
    Yes; you have to let them know there won't be drinking : (23 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    No, we’re having a dry reception and on our invitations we put “Dinner, dancing and general merriment to follow immediately” in lieu of “Reception to follow”. This indirectly excludes “drinking” which would have fit in nicely.

    We also put it in our FAQ on our website, because we were getting asked frequently! Local people understand from the venue (on a dry college campus), but out of towners make up over half our guestlist, so our website says this:

    Will there be alcohol at the reception?

    Unfortunately, the venue where we’ve chosen to host our reception, [Venue Name], is on campus at [College Name]. [College] has a pretty strict No Alcohol on campus policy, so we won’t be serving any alcoholic beverages at the reception.

     

    Post # 4
    Member
    3671 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I wouldn’t.  And I would never consider not attending a wedding of someone I know just because they decided not to serve alcohol.

    Post # 6
    Hostess
    4669 posts
    Honey bee

    Well if all else fails put out a keg labeld “root beer” and go from there.

     

    …jk

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    Post # 8
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    330 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I don’t think you should HAVE to let them know. But  I do think it would be a good way to show there is solidarity in your decision and that you are not budging, and if they have a problem with it oh well. Maybe if they know it’s set in stone they would change their mind about their plans. It might be a good way to set it in stone.

    Post # 10
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    You are totally stressing out about this dry reception. You just gotta stand strong and don’t budge! I know, easier said than done.

    You could just said, “Because X and I don’t drink, we’ve chosen to have a dry reception” or just…”we’re having a dry reception” and if someone asks you just say, “Because we want to”.

    You don’t OWE anybody an explanation, dude. No liquor, period. End of story.

    Post # 12
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    149 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I agree that some people are unfortunately too focused on the “party” side of a wedding. I too will have the same issue closer to the wedding as my family loves to drink and and my fiances family is very conservative. We decided right away not to serve alcohol at the wedding. We will tell people as it comes up, but mostly it is not a big deal to us. I think a wedding invitation should not have to include something like that. so I agree with the website idea or maybe word of mouth? In general, is it something people need to know?It is after all “your day!” I am sure once people start having fun at the reception, they will forget all about it.  

    Post # 13
    Member
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I would try to keep your stress level about the whole thing off his family’s radar. Maybe that goes without saying, maybe not … if you just let it be casual, like it’s not a big deal, and don’t let them egg you into making it a big deal (outwardly), they can’t think you’re controlling.

    Just let it be, “Oh, yeah, we decided not to have alcohol.” and change the subject.

    Post # 14
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    1872 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I would leave it off the invitation–there’s no point in calling attention to it.

    I feel like if people are going to act like children about this, then be the adult and treat them like children: “We’re having fishsticks today, kids!” “But I don’t want fishsticks!” “Well, that’s what we’re having today, kids” = “We’re having a dry reception.” “We don’t want a dry reception!” “Well, that’s what we’re having today kids.” I feel like the more that you try and explain yourself, prepare people, freak out about their needs, the more that the will detect this and whine. You’re having a dry reception. End of story, deal.

    If you would like to let people know, word of mouth is good and even just a simple statement on your website: “The reception will be alcohol-free” or something is fine. You don’t have to offer an explanation.

    Post # 16
    Member
    148 posts
    Blushing bee

    We also decided to havea dry reception because of personal beliefs. We will not be stating it on the website/invitations, but people have asked (already) what type of drinks we will be having. Some of my family members have gotten upset about it and given me a hard time, and it has spread through word of mouth.

    I agree that it isn’t something you should have to advertise or justify to people. It is yor wedding, people can have fun without it.

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