Post # 1
Two friends of mine from grad school got married a little over two years ago in Vegas. Everyone in our school got an invite, but with no details as to a time, date or location they were more preannouncements than invites. Nevertheless we scored around their registry and sent a pretty cool gift (they wanted a Monopoly set but knowing they were huge Doctor Who fans we gave them the special themed sitting). About fourteen months later we get a one sentence thank you.
Fat forward to today. I just received a mass email invite to their re-marriage party. They hadn’t received the blessing of the church for their first marriage and are now celebrating the fact that they have. The invite included a link to a new registry (at a more upscale store than before). Making it to this ceremony is out of the question so am I expected to send a second gift?
Post # 2
I don’t know what the true etiquette is, but I wouldn’t send a gift, personally, unless it was really close to them.
Post # 3
renwoman: I was going to say no, since you already sent them a wedding present to a wedding you weren’t even really invited to.
However, you are absolutely free to send them a gift if you want to. I don’t think they’ll get angry at you for sending a second gift, but it’s totally you’re choice.
Post # 4
renwoman: In this case, I would send a lovely card.
Post # 5
I agree with PPs. I would only send a card of congratulations. However, if you feel inclined to send another gift, i see no problem with that either!
Totally up to you (:
Post # 6
renwoman: Wait, they sent you a fake invitation to their wedding, never actually invited you, and now are hitting you up for a gift for their re-do?
This is a trainwreck. And no, you are not obligated to send a gift. No one is ever obligated to send a gift, but you’re SUPER not obligated in this instance.
Post # 7
I would just send/bring a card.
Post # 8
You don’t “owe” anyone a single gift let alone two. If you’d like to get them something, feel free, but don’t do it just because you feel obligated.
Post # 9
You didn’t need to even send a gift to the first wedding that you couldn’t attend (and weren’t invited to), let alone the second. I would certainly not send a gift.
Post # 10
Sounds like a gift-grab. There’s no excuse to have a second wedding for the same marriage. I wouldn’t get a second gift and frankly, I wouldn’t indulge them in this stupidity. Some people have no shame.
Post # 11
Wait a minute, they sent marriage announcements but didn’t invite anyone to the ceremony. Had a registry but eloped to Vegas, and now are having a “do-over” with another registry? Hell no. I wouldn’t have gotten a gift in the first place, and certainly wouldn’t buy them another. If you do go to this party I would just bring a “congrats on still being married” card.
Post # 12
renwoman: This screams gift-grab to me.. very tacky. I have no issue with them having a re-do and throwing another party or wanting to celebrate the blessing with family and friends but to ask for more gifts is tasteless.