Post # 1
My fiance thinks we should pay for the groomsmens tux rental since they don’t get to keep them like the bridesmaids do their dresses. I told him that’s good and fine but if we do that then we don’t get them gifts too. Our gift to them is the tux rental. Of course, he thinks that it’s unfair to give the bridesmaids gifts and not the groomsmen. Ugh! So, do we pay for the groomsmens tuxes and call it good or do we pay for the tuxes and get them a gift. My preference is to ask them to pay for their own tuxes since that’s the traditional understanding and give them a nice gift but I can’t convince my fiance that this is kosher. Maybe this has been answered somewhere but I just wanted to find out what all you bees thought. Thanks!
Post # 3
We rented the gm’s tuxes but we didn’t pay for everyones tux. That’s really nice of you to offer to pay for their tuxes. Maybe get something small in addition too. You could look on ebay but get some personalized flasks. One of the gifts I got my gm were engraved flasks and after shipping they were about $10 each.
Oh, you could go to Mens wearhouse and they could buy their own suits. It’s about $250 or so depending on the tux/suit. My husband is the best man for a friends wedding and they are getting gray suits for about that much.
I considered buying instead of renting but renting was cheaper than buying.
Post # 4
I personally think it’s really up to you, but maybe you can get them a little something to show your appreciation for their being part of your day? Cufflinks, a tie, alcohol… (can you tell I have no idea what guys like?)
Post # 5
We are not paying for tuxes. Mr. R is the second to last of his friends to get married, and none of them have paid for his tux rentals. (In 6+ weddings!)
Is that normal for your circle of friends though?
Post # 6
We’re getting them a gift (their shoes and something else) and they’re buying their suits (suits, not tuxes) because they all need new ones and we found a good deal (buy one suit, get two free). So we’re all pitching in to buy two suits and getting four for free. 🙂 Just splitting the cost six ways
Anyways, if he’s really adamant ask him if you should be paying for the BMs dresses and giving them a gift too. I don’t think it’s logical really. Why would you pay for their tuxes AND get them a gift if you don’t do the same for the girls? That would just be my argument/stance. It’s cheaper for guys usually anyways when you consider the hair, makeup, shoes, undergarments for women even if the tux rental is 150 and so is the dress or whatever.
Post # 7
No.. Its true they dont get to keep them.. but when they were asked to be groomsman they should know that they have a tux or suit rental to take care of.. that is their only responsibility. But yes you of course pay for their gifts. But thats just my opinion.
Post # 8
All but one of the groomsmen are married and my fiance “didn’t make the cut” when it came to their weddings but I know that my cousin (one of the GM) had his guys pay for their own tux rental so I’m not sure where he gets the idea that we need to pay for them. Plus, we’ve found a local place with nice tuxes that only rent for $65; much cheaper than places like Men’s Wearhouse so I don’t feel like we’re asking a lot, especially since it’s their only responsiblity. I know we’d pay for a gift but I’m not sure if we should really pay for both. If that’s the case maybe we should pay for the girls dresses and their gifts.
Menswear has been the most stressful part of our wedding thus far!
Post # 9
If you pay for the rentals, that is your gift to the GMs. Stick to your guns!
Post # 10
Often times renting a suit is a lot cheaper than buying a dress, so that’s something to consider as well. You could have them all buy a suit – but that’s often times *more* expensive than a dress. It’s really hard to win. Our guys are renting suits, and they are paying for them. None of them really want suits because they don’t need them, and having them spend less money on renting a suit was preferable to them buying a suit that they’d keep.
Post # 11
Personally I would pay for the tux AND get a Groomsmen gift! How can you ask them to stand in your wedding and offer no gift? A tux rental is a pretty lame *gift*
Post # 12
I personally didn’t want to but the precedent has been set in our group the groom pays for the rental AND gives a gift, so yes we’re paying.
Post # 13
Maybe think about having the guys buy there tuxs so they can keep them? We had our guys get theres at JcPennys and they where cheaper than a rental…just a thought!