Do we really need a table plan?

posted 2 months ago in Venue
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Rydges Hotel

If you are not having a table plan, then I would suggest you have more seats and tables available than your guest number. There will be odd seats left where people leave a gap inbetween those who they don’t know. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

It is probably best to assign tables but not specific seats. For 50 people, that shouldn’t be too stressful to put together and nobody will feel overwhelmed about where to sit during the reception – they’ll just be able to follow instructions. I just attended a wedding that did that and I appreciated it from a guest perspective. I will be doing the same thing for my wedding. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Personally, I would assign tables. What if poor aunt Barb got left out from her immidete family? What if she got left with all the young kiddies? This is very unlikey, I know, but what if? I’m the type of person that likes organization/order and getting rid of as many “what if’s” as possible.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

The biggest annoyance at a wedding is no seating chart. Seriously. That’s not just my opinion as a wedding guest, but something I see be a problem ALL the time at weddings (I’m a wedding photographer). I think it’s important to remember that “casual” is a state of mind, not a level of formality. I constantly hear brides say their wedding is casual, and that’s great if that’s the vibe they want, but it doesn’t excuse basic etiquette. It’s so much easier on guests to have a seating chart – and without, usually the tables look like a hott mess. You’ll also need to have more tables/chairs than the number of guests because people automatically head to a table with those they know, and pull chairs from an empty table. You might have a whole table with 3 people at it, and another table with 10.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

It’s only 50 people. Just do it. I had 180 people and it really didn’t take that much effort.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Assign tables. It’s easy to do and causes less stress on guests. 

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

We are not having a table plan and we are having 120 guests. The main table will consist of myself and my groom, and both of our parents, and then we will have 2 reserved tables for our bridal party and close family, siblings and their spouses and grandparents.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

We had 50 guests and we assigned tables (but not seats).  I think it worked out very well.  No one got left out and the couple people we had that didn’t know anyone else, we were able to place with other people we thought they would enjoy talking to.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

as others have said, people like being told where to sit at weddings.

my cousin just got married and had a very casual-vide wedding (bbq buffet, paper plates). she didn’t have a seating plan and while she didn’t “need” one, not having a seating plan still gives guests that uncomfortable moment that takes them back to their middle school cafeteria where they are trying to figure out where to sit and with whom (even if it’s just family and close friends). While silly, it is momentarily stressful and takes your guests out of the moment. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

gembyname :  ugh I hate it when there’s no seating plan. It feels really stressful on guests to feel the need to claim a seat just to ensure they’re able to sit with their date. I went to a wedding last November that had fewer than 50 and no seating plan and there was lots of confusion and grumbling from guests (and stress at getting a seat, and trying to then be able to sit with friends, etc). Making a seating chart is really not that hard. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

gembyname :  I had 70. Assign the tables just not the seats as others have said. Letting people pick always leaves someone out, people saving seats. ugh, why bother. Its really not as hard as ya think.  

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

gembyname :  We are having a wedding with only 60 guests total. My fiancés family will not be joining us (no relationship with his side) so it’s literally all my family and our close friends that know each other. We have no seating chart because I fully expect my family to be able to mingle, and for our friends to find their own seat.

The only tricky part for us is my parents are just now going through a sudden divorce…and it will still be happening during our wedding. We thought about assigning seats so it just takes pressure off of my parents from having to sit by each other, but then I decided “F-that. They’re all adults, they can figure out what table they want to sit at. It’s not rocket science.”

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