Post # 1
The title basically sums it up. We were designing our Save the Dates last week, and I mentioned putting our wedding website on them. Mind you, we don’t actually have a wedding website yet, but I assumed we would set up a basic one through one of the sites that lets you do it for free.
That’s when FH said he doesn’t want a wedding website. This is mainly for security reasons, as there are several people in our social circle who are not invited, but may try to crash the wedding and cause trouble. (Most notable among these people is my ex, whom I’ve filed several police reports against and almost got a restraining order against; as recently as three weeks ago, this guy has threatened to show up with a gun to places he knew we would be, and we don’t want to risk the possibility of that happening at our wedding.) As a result, we do not post specifics about the wedding on social media, and we are trying to keep the date and location a “secret” for as long as possible. FH is afraid that a website is not a wise idea in light of all this.
The other thing is he thinks we just don’t need one and that people won’t look at it anyway. Personally, I do refer to peoples’ wedding websites for registry info, hotel info, etc., but FH thinks we can just include all of that in the invitation suite. We have two weddings we’re attending this fall, and neither of those couples appears to have a wedding website, so FH is using that as supporting evidence for his argument that they’re not necessary, lol.
So… idk. Are you doing a wedding website? Have your guests actually used this resource? Do you check wedding websites for weddings you are invited to? Is it a good idea for us to do when we have safety concerns, or would it be better to skip it?
Post # 2
Not necessary. I never look at them.
Post # 3
They are not necessary and hardly anyone looks at them. Given your safety concerns, I’d advise against it.
Post # 4
Nope. I have never once looked at one when my friends have them.
Post # 5
GIven your safety concerns, i’d probably skip it, but I actually love looking at wedding websites! If you really want one, I have mine through the knot and we can password protect our site so only people with the password can see it. Could be an option if you really wanted one though.
Post # 6
We are having one because 100% of our guests have to travel (semi-desintation, as in destination for everyone except us) and there is important information about how to get to the location, what airports are closest, room blocks, etc. If it were local, I wouldn’t think it to be important at all, but I feel like it’s fairly mandatory in our situation at least.
For you, given the very real safety concern, I would say yeah absolutely no website. You can also make wedding websites that you can only access if the person has the URL, like they aren’t searchable, but that still seems kind of risky to me since your ex sounds horrible.
Post # 7
No you don’t need one and in your situation I’d definitely advise against it!
Post # 8
Nope. I rarely look at them. Most registries are easily found online and if people can’t find them and don’t want to give cash they are capable of asking. If you make a hotel block then people are guaranteed space and can get that info in the invitation. Otherwise every adult I know under the age of 80 is capable of googling area hotels and making a reservation on their own. I’m sure they have all taken vacations before.
Post # 10
mrsziggy : we used a website for the RSVPs, but we had a password thing on it so only guests were able to use it. I rarely use other people’s websites though. I also give money for weddings so I don’t even use registries.
Post # 11
Wedding websites aren’t very common here (uk) but we have one as my fi is a computer programmer so other than the domain name, it was free and easy. We used it mostly for online rsvps, but I have had a few people comment how useful our site had been.
We don’t have the site listed on Google, and haven’t put some bits of information on it (eg, our surnames). I don’t think I’d have had one of I was at the stage of reporting a stalker ex to police. It wouldn’t be worth the stress to me of “what if he finds it?”
Post # 12
nalastardust : Same same. 50% of our guest list is travelling – we wanted to make sure they had total visibility on the process, plus travel/accomm options etc.
Although we put vanity things on there (like our “how we met story” etc. etc.), the key reason is for practicality and ease for the fam bam
Post # 14
I don’t think wedding websites are necessary but I personally love looking at them. I’m so sorry about your situation! I believe the wedding website provider appy couple provides a functionality where only people with your wedding code (kinda like a password) can access your wedding website. If you want one, then I think this may be your best option for protection.
Post # 15
Do you NEED one? Absolutely not.
Do you need to do what BOTH of you are comfortable with? Absolutely! Only 2 opinions matter here – yours and your fiance’s – what a bunch of strangers think isn’t relevant or helpful x