(Closed) Do we REALLY need to get favors?

posted 8 years ago in Favors
  • poll: Are you getting your guests favors?
    Yes, we want to give our guests a small "thank you" : (41 votes)
    33 %
    No, its an unnecessary expense : (63 votes)
    51 %
    We haven't decided yet : (15 votes)
    12 %
    Other : (5 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    6597 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Didn’t do them and no one missed them!

    Post # 4
    Member
    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We are givin out favors…we’re doing custom made candies by this little candy shop in Little Italy (papabubble.com). We just think that the candy is really cool and we like that it’s going to be unique to us. However, we were at a wedding in June and they didn’t have favors, and I didn’t even realize until someone mentioned it to me. So I definitely don’t think they’re a necessity! If you’re having any kind of theme or vibe, I always think it’s nice when the favor ties into that. If you’re not feeling it though, don’t do it!

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I am so on the fence. I feel like I should do them, but I also feel like they are an unnecessary expense and few people will notice their absence.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2476 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We went the donation route and gave to our local Children’s Hospital.  I personally never keep the trinkets that I get as wedding favors (unless they’re edible– then they almost immediately go into my tummy).  🙂

    Post # 8
    Member
    708 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    We are giving to a charity and printing up a little note to let our guests know that in lieu of favors we have donated to the NYC burn center (my Fiance is a firefighter).

    Post # 9
    Member
    937 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We aren’t doing it. I always feel so bad when I go to weddings and see the favors all left behind on the tables. The only favors I’ve ever thought were practical were the two Christmas weddings I went to- because the favors were Christmas tree ornaments- and I put them on my tree and think of those two couples every year.

    ETA: We are also going the donation route. Fiance and I are each choosing a charity, and we will have a sign on the table that indicates that.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1254 posts
    Bumble bee

    For me, unless it is food, I don’t even bother taking it. But even then, I’ve had 2 small bottles of white and red wine sitting in the fridge for 2 years now. They were favors from a wedding. So let me rephrase, unless it is something I can eat on the way home, I leave it.

    Personally, I’m not doing favors, but I have many guests coming from out of town to attend the wedding so I will be providing them with Out of Town bags. I will give them things they can use while in town (i.e., water, maps, coupons to activities, local snacks, etc.).

    Post # 11
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    5890 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2012

    no offense to anyone here doing this- but i pretty much never use things that are personalized with the couple’s wedding date and names ever again.  edibles are nice, but then again, you are providing food and dessert as it is.  i only like favors when they are super creative or indicative of the couple.

    Post # 12
    Member
    1465 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    You would be surprised at the number of people who skip them (a large number of folks don’t hand them out in real life) and guests don’t miss them at all. I’ve only ever been to two weddings out of countless where favors were handed out, both with edible favors, and all of them were left behind even with being in plain sight where you couldn’t miss them, which blows the WB theory out of the water that people always notice edibles.

    Save your money and use it toward something else much more important that guests will actually notice and care about, or save it for a rainy day after the wedding when you’re on limited funds.

    Post # 13
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    2271 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    We gave “Wildflowers from Our Wedding” seed packets from AMerican Meadows. I believe if you ordered 100 or less, they are 50 cents a pack and we ordered more and they were 35 cents per pack. The packets had a nice little paragraph saying how pleased we were that the guests were there to share our wedding day and that we hoped they would plant the seeds and when the flowers came up, they would remember the happiness of the day. Since the wedding took place in a garden and one of the subjects I teach is botany, it seemed appropriate, We just filled a big basket full of them so guests could help themselves.

    Post # 14
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    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    @snake: Completely matter-of-factly. I didn’t hear anyone saying anything negative about it at all, and like I said, I didn’t even notice! I think if there’s nothing that stands out to you as something you really want to do as a favor/think it would be so cool to do as a favor, then definitely skip them!

    Post # 15
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    1184 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    glad to see “no, it’s an unnecessary expense” is leading the way so far. we haven’t made a final decision, but i want to skip the favors. how many times have you left your favor on the table or thrown it out the next day? not to be rude, but unless it’s edible most of your guests probably don’t want it/care about it. at my friend’s wedding they had signs saying they had made a charitable donation in lieu of favors which i could also see doing…and i know that the donation they made was less than what they would have spent on 200 favors, plus was tax deductible.

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