Post # 1
PLANNING THE WEDDING IS VERY STRESSFUL!!!! We have our menu set along with Hors d’oeuvres, but I was wondering do we really need to have Hors d’oeuvres? We are trying to save everywhere we can, but life happens and things pop up when you do not expect it. We said we were going to have a small wedding but my family is huge and he is 1 of 9 siblings. I am wondering would it look cheap of me if I canned the Hors’doeuvres? This is my menu, we have a lot of food in my eyes or should I scale back on the menu. I need help, I am stressed the hell out.
Passed Hors D’oeuvres
Mini BBQ pastry puffs (chicken)
Tempura Shrimp with sweet Thai Chili Drizzle
Pork Taco with pasilla and pepper jack
Bacon Wrapped Shrimp
Preset Salad: Spinach Salad with tomatoes, cucumber, red onion banana peppers with bacon and roasted walnuts on the side. along with Rasberry vinaigrette.
Buffet Menu:Southern Display
Garlic Green Beans
Buttermilk Fried Chicken with honey drizzle
Creamy Stone ground grits w/ cream sherry sauce (on the side)
Corn on the cob
Grilled Flank Steak over fingerling Potatoes
Black Eyed peas with no ham
I need help…
My guest count grew and now I do not know what to do? My own fault because I am so nice, some folks invited themselves
Post # 2
I am only setting out a large cheese and cracker platter next to our wine/beer bar. after that everyone can just wait the 30 more minutes until we open the Buffett.
Your dinner options sound yummy.
Post # 3
I would take out the chicken or fish option. The hors d’oeurvres are usually at the same time as cocktail hour and you don’t want people drinking without food! Would it be cheaper if they were in a buffet spot for people to help themselves rather than passed?
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse
JJSoon2bwife14: If the hors d’oeurves are being served during cocktail hour (with alcohol) then yes, you need them. Otherwise, people will be having a few drinks on an empty stomach…which is never a good idea.
Post # 5
JJSoon2bwife14: A couple of comments:
If you are having a cocktail hour, you must serve hors-d’ouevres. Don’t let your guests drink on an empty stomach! If you’re going straight into dinner, hors-d’ouevres are not necessary.
Do you have any vegetarians coming? It looks like all of your hors-d’ouevres and main dishes have meat!
Sorry to hear that your guest count grew! Don’t let anyone else invite themselves!
Post # 6
LDay1983: Yeah, you are right..
Post # 7
If your doing them during the cocktail hour, you need them. Is there a cheaper option like another bee said like a buffet? If not I would make the cuts on the menu rather than the hors doeurvea. People get bored standing around for an hour plus without food
Post # 8
If you are not going straight from the ceremony into the reception, with dinner being served, then you have to have something for guests to eat during the gap. They will be grumpy otherwise!
That said, it doesn’t have to be divine. You can certainly choose simple, but well-liked tasty options. Talk with your caterer about maybe doing a simple cocktail hour?
Post # 9
vmason009: That sounds like a great choice too, we may only have beer/wine too.
Post # 10
THanks Ladies… We do have a fish dish… I tried talking to the event lady and she is no help at all. Bridal party have no input and all I hear can I bring a guest. I am to the point and saying I rescind everyones invitation. I am really stressed out, me not having the balls to say NO to everyone and now I am trying to figure out how to skimp on what I want to feed everyone. this is not cool. When I talk to vendors and I look for guidance and all I get a dear in headlights look. My financial situation has changed drastically and I want to call off the wedding but do not have the gutts to tell my Fiance’ I just want us to be married and do not care about anyone else. I have a lot of issues at the moment and I just want HELPPPP AND GUIDANCE. I turn to the hive a lot for ideas and stuff but
Post # 11
JJSoon2bwife14: can you cut back on other things? Centrepieces for a start if you are having them, favours, decor.
But if you are struggling and you really don’t have the cash to spend on a wedding then you should cancel or postpone. There is no harm in calling it off and having a small intimate wedding at the courthouse wedding followed by dinner at restaurant. A party is never something you should get into financial hardship for.
Your friends and family should understand this.
Post # 12
j_jaye: I agree… If what just happend didn’t happen I would be fine. thanks I am going to talk to Fi and figuire out. Thanks
Post # 13
Not sure if it’s the same in the USA, but here in Australia, seafood is generally more expensive. Could you swap the two shrimp hors doeuvres out for something more economical?
Post # 14
JJSoon2bwife14: If you are trying to cut back on food costs here are a few suggestions:
Serve a plated dinner. Buffets usually cost more because they have to account for extra food for guests who taken some of everything.
Cut back on hors d’oeuvres. The more time it takes to make something the pricier it is in most places. You don’t have to have a ton. Maybe a fruit tray, some type of dip/chips/pita and some cheese and crackers.
Post # 15
I wondered the same thing and ended up coming to the conclusion that people will be grumpy if they have to wait until dinner to have anything to eat. I ended up deciding to serve fewer hors d’oeuvres. Since people will be trickling in throughout cocktail hour anyway, it won’t really be cocktail “hour” for many people. It’ll be “cocktail 55 minutes” for people who come straight from the ceremony and don’t hit much traffic and “cocktail 10 minutes” for people who stop by the hotel first. (And, of course, every duration in between.) So we’re serving enough hors d’oeuvres to feed about 2/3 of our guest list. Even if your ceremony and reception are at the same location so there won’t be any staggering-for-traffic in your guests’ arrival, you could do something similar by just making your cocktail “hour” shorter. People will eat less in a “cocktail 40 minutes,” y’know?