(Closed) Do we really need to have Hors d'oeuvres? Stressed the Heck Out

posted 6 years ago in Food
Post # 17
1723 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

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JJSoon2bwife14:  We are having a brunch, we can do a buffet, which will be ready for the guests when they arrive so no hor d’oeuvres. If we do plated meals, I will offer hor d’oeuvres so the guests will not go four hours without any food as I am sure many people will not eat breakfast knowing there will be food after the wedding.

Post # 18
1065 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I am with PP that they are necessary for the cocktail hour, but they certainly don’t have to be as fancy.  I don’t know if it’s just because I am a total simpleton at heart, but  I almost cry with happiness when I go somewhere fancy and see the finger food is sausage rolls, crackers and dip and other things I recognise.  You have a beautiful main meal menu, you can totally get away with some cheaper foods for the cocktail hour.

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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JJSoon2bwife14:  In my opinion, you do need to have hors d’oervres if you are doing a cocktail hour, but you do NOT need to have a lot of them.  You can also choose between doing passed hors d’oervres or doing a platter or two.

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Post # 21
1244 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

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1) Do NOT cut the hors doeuvres if you’re serving alcohol – any alcohol, even beer and wine. It’s unfair to make people stand around drinking for an hour on an empty stomach. Even cheese and fruit plates are better than nothing.

2) Fish is not a vegetable. Fish is an animal. The idea that it’s “not meat” dates back to Catholic policies surrounding meat consumption during fasting seasons, but this just isn’t followed by most people today. I hate to be blunt, and I can’t speak for ALL vegetarians, but most of my friends are veg (as am I) and none of us eat fish – it’s deeply bothersome when people try to argue us on that point. A “vegetarian” who eats fish is actually a “pescatarian.” I can’t count the number of times I’ve shown up at parties/events/whatever and someone has said “Oh, you’re a vegetarian? Here! Have this salmon!” and I am left eating an entire bread basket because there is literally nothing else for me there. If you want to serve fish, great, but have an actual non-meat option for people who cannot eat meat.

Post # 22
123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Tarp Chapel

This stress is a good example as to why I am having a dessert and dancing reception. We are just doing an amazing wedding cake, punch, and some wine & champaign. We may do a fruit and cheese display if we have room left over in the budget. Orginally we were going to do a nice sit down dinner, but I had too many people start to invite themselves and I just can’t say no. This cut out all of the reception stress, and trying to come up with money that we don’t have. We are going to put “Dessert and dancing to follow” on the invites that way nobody is under the impression that there is going to be a meal. I want everybody to have a wonderful time, but I don’t think a full meal is needed to acheive that. Good luck! 🙂

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