- 9 years ago
Well, first of all I do post relatively often–this is somewhat of a personal subject, and really not my personal business to be disclosing, so I wanted to go anonymous for this.
We just found out that a good friend of Fiance is in jail. She has a history of drug use, and though she was sober for awhile, apparently she was recently put in jail for selling drugs. The friend was in a serious relationship with Fiance other good friend who passed away about two years ago. (They also have a child together) The good friend who passed away has some siblings, who Fiance is also friends with (and who just told him about what happened with the friend in jail).
Anyway, I guess my question is, do we invite the friend in jail? First of all, I don’t even know if she can come because we don’t know how long she’ll be in jail. And I don’t know how it’ll feel to get an invitation and be like uhhh…I’m in jail, I can’t go anywhere. Also, there may be some hard feelings between her and the family (parents of sibling friends are fighting for fulltime custody of the child, as the mom is likely using drugs again).
I know ultimately, it’s FI’s decision about whether to invite her or not. Though before I ask him (I think he doesn’t know what he wants to do yet), what do you all think would be a good way to go about this?