(Closed) Do We Send an Invite?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do I invite my well-to-do cousin to a shower I know she won't come to?
    Yes : (12 votes)
    60 %
    No : (7 votes)
    35 %
    Depends on the Situation : (1 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    2053 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Send an invitation out of courtesy to include her in the day and your happiness. Let the decision to attend, send a gift, etc. be up to her. Whether she is well-off really has nothing to do with it — at the core of this, it is about including a family member in something special. You can’t be responsible for how she will take it, but you can be responsible in letting her know she is special to you in celebrating this part of your life. If it still feels weird, why not enclose a little note saying you understand distance is a factor but wanted to be sure to make her feel like she was a part of everything and not be left out?

    Post # 4
    14495 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think you should send her one, maybe you can put a note in it that says something along the lines of ” I know that you probable can’t make it with it being such a long trip, but I always want you to know that you are wanted and invited to all family events.  You will be missed.  You loving cousin….”  

    It is never wrong to let someone know their company is wanted and enjoyed. 

    Post # 5
    4046 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Invite her. Even if you think she can’t make it, it’s still nice to include her. 

    Post # 6
    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    @tksjewelry:  Pretty much what I was going to say, but even better.

    Post # 7
    1375 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Don’t put a note on the invite, that is often seen as a backhanded way to tell someone you don’t want them to come.  Send the invite as it is.  If she mentions it to you or your parents and is on the fence about the travel, then you be understanding about the expense and distance.

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