Post # 1
Our friends and family have been incredibly generous, and we received bridal shower gifts from both attendees and non-attendees, and wedding gifts from guests who were present on our big day and guests who could not make it as well.
My shower was 2 weeks before the wedding, so there have definitely been an overlap of gifts, checks and cash and we aren’t quite sure if the gifter(s) intended for it to be for the shower/wedding/both/etc.
Do we write separate thank you cards for those who attended and gave us a gift vs those who just gave us a gift?
And for those who gave us gifts for each event, do we send more than one card?
Does anyone have any insight on wording we should use/avoid in these thank you notes?
Post # 2
rittenhousenewbee: You should send separate cards for shower gifts and wedding gifts. I would include the item in the thank you… “Thank you so much for the lovely vase.” Make sure that you thank people for attending your wedding that were actually there. I have received cards thanking me for attending an event when I RSVP’d no……
Post # 3
You don’t really need to mention anything about what they intended the gift for, especially if you aren’t sure.
Dearest Aunt Ethel,
Thank you so much for the wonderful toaster. Fritz and I are absolutely nuts for hot toast and butter, we will think of you as we use it.
We hope to have you over for brunch once we are settled in.
Thank you again,
You and Darling Husband
Post # 4
Proper etiquette is to send a thank you for each event, one for the shower and one for the wedding, regardless of how close they are to the big day