(Closed) Do we send the invites early?

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Good question.  Well, what could it hurt to send them early?  I don’t see how sending invitations early would step on anyone’s feet.  It sounds smart to me.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Exactly.  Although, most folks probably know via word of mouth, would you say?  So hopefully it’s not a huge issue.  But I think it makes for some extra insurance to send them early.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I had a relative who got married Labor day weekend and I think they sent out the invites in early June.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would probably send them out early too, only if you didn’t already do a save-the-date.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

 my wedding was in the begining of august and i mailed out my invites in the begining of may and rsvp date was end of june, plently of time and i was not scrambling last minute to get responses. it worked out great.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Oooh. I’m going to piggy back on this question, because it’s a good thread. I’m getting married January 30th. I DID send out STDs, but not to everyone on the guest list. Do I send my invites out before Thanksgiving, since the holidays invariably flood people with christmas cards, etc (and the invitation might not get there or get lost…therefore having less prompt RSVPs) or do I follow the 6-8 weeks etiquette rule? (That would put me mailing the invites on Nov. 30th at the earliest)

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

If you sent a STD, you don’t need to send them early.  I sent my invites at the beginning of May for my Independence Day weekend wedding.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper

I’m not sure if “Early March” was a typo in your original post, but I think March is a bit too early.  Early June, however, is ok in my book.  I think it’s ok.  I’d also give yourself extra time between the RSVP deadline and your actual deadline.  I’m assuming here, but I think when there is more time between the invite receipt and the actual date, people would sit on the RSVP card longer and may forget to mail it in.  

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

If you don’t have much $ could you consider doing email STDs? We used a cute photo of us and photoshopped the details over the top and emailed that to people – free and effective 🙂

Post # 14
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Honey bee

Invites are send out 6-8 weeks before the wedding, regardless of when it takes place. Otherwise they will get lost and forgotten about, even with your best intentions. Holiday weekend weddings are why save the dates were invented in the first place. Plus, some people do need the advance notice to take off time for work, buy airline tickets and hotel rooms and it’s hard to do that last minute. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We’re doing email save-the-dates too (partly for financial reasons, partly b/c our entire event is pretty casual so formal ones felt silly, and partly to save paper). I’m just designing them myself, but if you don’t want to do that there are also a bunch of designers on Etsy who will throw one together for very little (like under $10) if you use their existing designs.

We are also putting together a website with info on the events and doing online RSVPs using Google forms, and all of that will be ready when the save-the-date email goes out—so the hope is that we may even get some preliminary RSVPs long before the formal invitations go out. We’ll see….

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Late MAY/Early June would work… I think March is a little too early to send out your invites! People will misplace them, forget to RSVP, etc… it could get messy!

I think its perfectly acceptable to not use STDs… they’re a relatively new idea to most guests. My Fiance received one earlier this year & he thought it WAS his invitation lol.

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