(Closed) Do we stand the whole time?

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

When I was a BM in a full Catholic Mass we sat in the first pew most of the time.  At one point (can’t remember which) the MOH and Best Man went back up to the altar.  

I would definitely recommend letting them sit!

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

at every wedding i’ve been to the wedding party sits in the first pew and are brought up to stand only during the vows/ring exchange/”i do” part.  the bride and groom either kneel or sit up on the alter.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Every Catholic weddings that I have seen photographs for, there are always pictures of the bride, groom, and wedding party sitting.  Presumably, since a Catholic wedding includes a longer mass, you get to sit for part of it.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yeah, definitely sit! Even for the non-mass version.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Since we are getting married in a church that isn’t our regular church, I called there to ask how long the pews were. I wanted to know how many rows I needed to reserve for parents, grandparents, etc. (Its a mission, so we thought they might be shorter than normal). The woman who answered the phone didn’t know exactly, but asked how many were in our wedding party. I figured they would need a place to sit, but that told me right there that the church expects them to sit.

If you are still in doubt and want to be 100% sure, you should call the church and ask them what is normal.

 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

You definitely won’t be standing all through the readings and homily! Except when you are doing actual wedding bits, you’ll be sitting/standing/kneeling as per everyone else during the Mass. At our church, there were chairs set up in front of the pews for the wedding party.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Every Catholic wedding I have been to the bridal party usually sits down. Then the bride and groom is either kneeling or sitting on chair. I think the only time that the MOH has to go to the altar is when she is rearranging the bride’s dress if the bride and groom are doing the 1st and 2nd readings, which has been common in all the weddings I have been to.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Our wedding party sat in the first pew, we sat in chairs at the front behind a special kneeler. Sometimes the bride and groom kneel the whole time, but we had chairs since I have an unfortunate tendancy to faint sometimes (maybe it’s the heat, the kneeling for long periods of time, I don’t know why).

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

No, it would be entirely inappropriate to stand during the entire Mass.  You go up for the introductory prayers and then sit down for the readings.  You then all go back up for your vows after the homily and sit back down for the liturgy of the Eucharist.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I am letting everyone sit

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am going to have to respectfully disagree with you TwoAngels. It is not inappropriate to stand for the entire mass. I am a Ruthenian Byzantine Catholic as is the majority of my family. This past weekend I attended the wedding of a cousin at her Byzantine Catholic church. Yes, the wedding party did sit and stand with the rest of congregation during the liturgy but the bride and groom both stood for the ENTIRE ceremony. Keep in mind that this ceremony included the entire Divine Liturgy and as such was well over an hour long.

In short, my experiences tell me that the wedding party is essentially considered part of the congregation for everything except the vows. The actions of the bride and groom, however, are dictated by the traditions of the church. If you have a question, speak to your priest/the priest at the parish at which you are having the ceremony regarding this item.

 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m interested to see how ours will be. We’re doing a non-mass ceremony. I’d like our party to stand with us, and not just the MOH and Best Man. However, I wonder how that works since I have both a maid and matron of honor.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@Penquingal06 – Different Rites have different rules as they stem from different cultures.  The important thing is that a sign of great reverance occurs during the Canon of the Mass (the prayers before and during the consecration).  In the Latin Rite, this expression of reverance is kneeling.  It would be a liturgical abuse in the Latin Rite to stand during the Canon.  This does unforunately occur in different Latin Rite parishes, and when this does happen the priest is going outside of his authority.

I have no idea what the rubrics are for the Byzantine Rite.  Of the Eastern Rites, I have only attended the Marionite Rite and I do not recall standing during the Canon.  I have not done a whole lot of research though I know the Byzantine Rite is more heavy on the insense while we’re more heavy on the Holy Water and they’re much more into Icons while we’re into Statues.  Regardless, the Mass of the Latin Rite was forced into universal conformity in the 11th century.  While we did come out with a new missal in the early 1970’s, we are still bound to follow the rubrics of that Missal unless we are given expressed permission to follow a completely different missal such as the 1962 missal often know as the Traditional Latin Mass.

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