(Closed) Do we still have to send an invite??

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
3575 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yikes.  I’m sorry to say that since you did indeed send them a save the date, you now do need to send them an invitation.  Even if you think they will decline. I was in the same boat with one couple but I had already mailed the std.  Oh well, right?!?!

Post # 4
Member
566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Oh the dreaded guest list….

I would say that they are still expecting an invitation and by sending a save the date you are basically promisng them an invite.  I would send them one.

If you do not send an invite, you will burn all bridges with these people.  Also, I would suspect you would feel guilty (I would).

Post # 5
Member
1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

unless he really doesn’t care if he’s not friends with these couples after the wedding, you should send an invite and keep your fingers crossed that they don’t come.

Post # 6
Member
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

You could always say it must have gotten lost in the mail if they ask!

As for etiquette- Yes you should still send them an invite because you sent them a STD. If they were single guys I would prob say not to worry about it because they prob dont even remember but a couple deff would remember and you should send them one.

Post # 7
Member
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@mrskisstobe: NEVER and i repeat NEVER uninvite someone who you sent a save the date to (unless they stole your TV or beat up for grandma, of course).

Sorry, but you really need to send the invites. The STD means they ARE invited. If you don’t send an invite, it would be very rude.

 

Post # 8
Member
1559 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

This is why I haven’t sent my save-the-dates out yet! We’re going to send them out when we get our engagement pictures back and make them up, and I will be getting a FINALIZED guest list before that. I refuse to let this happen!

Post # 10
Member
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My Fiance knows a billion people and is so happy about getting married that he wants to invite them all.  He already has a 100 people are just his friends.  He is the kind of person who will invite people he meets anywhere.  So I feel your pain and I am battleling him over his friends. I think though that you would have to send them an invite and let them do the declining.  I’m glad that we have not done any STD yet.

Post # 11
Member
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think it would be quite rude if you didnt sent them an invite after sending a STD..

The topic ‘Do we still have to send an invite??’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors