(Closed) Do We Thank A Guest Now? Or After the Wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I’d send a thank you now.  We didn’t get our first gifts quite this early, but wedding gifts did come before my shower.  You want to make sure the guests knows it arrived.  Plus, you’ll have less to write after the wedding!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

If the guest is attending the wedding but not the bridal shower then I have a feeling that gift is for the shower. I have received gifts for me shower early for those who are not coming. It’s way too early for that to be a wedding gift. As I receive the items/checks for people who will not be attending my shower I send a thank you note.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It could still be a shower gift. When I get invited to shower but can’t attend I still send a gift!

To answer your question though, I would send a thank you now, so that they know you’ve received it 🙂

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think it might be for the shower too.  A lot of invited guests that can’t attend still send a gift.  Was there a card attached?  Maybe that will give you a clue.  Either way, definitely send a thank you card.  And just say you’re excited to see them at the wedding!

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Our wedding is in July as well.  We received two gifts about two weeks ago after the Save-The-Date Cards went out.  I sent a thank you card out to both guests.  I figure that you generally send a thank you card right after receiving a gift, so why not do the same with an early wedding gift?  Plus, it’s one less you’ll have to write later.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’d write a thank you now.  We are starting to get gifts in for the wedding and I’m writting thank you’s now.  Since our guest got a head start on giving us a gift I want to return the thank you.  If you do it early it will make life a lot easier.  Writing 2 or 3 thanks you’s in a sitting is a lot easier than writting 50 of them after the wedding. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We got our first gift too – new towels! I want to use them the first day after our honeymoon and then write a thank you note that says that. So, I’m waiting. But in the mean time I did ask Fiance to mention to his friend who gave us the gift that we got it and appreciate it.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I was tempted to write thank-yous for wedding gifts sent ahead of time, but I believe they should be done post wedding as you are also supposed to thank the guest for attending your wedding and can’t do so if it hasn’t yet happened.  Gifts are actually supposed to be sent before the wedding, not taken to the actual wedding, so when they arrive at your home beforehand, they are not technically “early.”  I made a detailed list of which guest sent what, and will write the thank you notes afterward.  I don’t think there is anything necessarily wrong with doing it early–what will the guest do, be mad because he/she got thanked too early?!  Go for it if it feels right to you, however my personal inclination is to wait.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Definitely send a thank you now, or that person will be wondering if you received it.  It shouldn’t matter at this point if it is for the shower or wedding.  If they send a 2nd gift for the wedding, then send them a 2nd thank you.  No big deal; the least you can do for someone being so thoughtful.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I always wrote and sent my thank you cards right away.  That way they know that you received it and it wasn’t lost in the mail.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2011

how fun to get your first gift! it’s actually quite nice and considerate of them to send the gift early so you can get a jump on your thank you notes. take advantage 🙂

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