(Closed) Do we use a Honeymoon Registry????

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t understand what you mean. Who will buy you “gifts” from the registry if you’re not having guests?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I don’t understand… A registry is for your guests to look at and decide which gift they would like to purchase for you, or what they can donate some money to.

But no guests = no registry…

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

@JenSomerville: In your case I don’t think it is appropriate.  Honeymoon registries are not really meant to be used to offset the wedding cost.  Also they will take a portion of your gifts.  I’d let the cards fall where they may.  People can always gift cash if they are so inclined to give a gift.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@andielovesj: I agree completely.  Aside from the fact that they are poor etiquette and tacky in general, they aren’t used for people to pay for your wedding.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@abbie017: Ouch, that’s harsh, but I do tend to agree.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@redheadem: Sorry, I don’t mean to be harsh.  I just hate the honeyfund/wishing well/asking for money route.  It’s rude, and I think too many people to do them.  I get really offended when I see things like that on invitations and actually give substantially less for a gift for those than I would had they not asked.  I don’t care if you use my gift towads your honeymoon, but don’t outright ask me to pay for it.  And in this case, asking me to actually pay for your wedding, I think that’s in poor taste.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We used Honeyfund and we love it. I don’t think its poor taste. To each its own. I think its the best way to not ask for money but help pay for honeymoon stuff. I think its a great idea so we used it on our wedding registry, along with other sites.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@JenSomerville: I personally think they’re in poor taste generally, but I’m not as opposed to them if there’s also a traditional registry (even if it’s small).

But you said you’re not having any guests?  Does that mean you’re eloping?  If so, I think a honeymoon registry is less acceptable.  Given that your friends/family won’t be part of the wedding, registering for items that you’ll only be able to use on your honeymoon once, seems a bit off in my opinion.  Instead, I’d suggest registering for items that they’ll be able to enjoy too so they feel a part of your wedded life:  items you’ll be able to use hosting your friends for dinner, linens for your bed, etc.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Since all family members have asked about a registry, I say go for it!!! They obviously want to contribute something, they are supporting you. I don’t think it’s tacky at all. If their asking how to help, it’s not like your sending it out and screaming for everyone you know to contribute, just the ones who ask. My cousin did this, I had no issues contributing to a honey fund. I actually saw it as a way to help the couple start married life with a beautiful honeymoon. Do what’s right for you and Fiance and your family.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@JenSomerville: So was “wedding was no guests” a typo?

If you have some guests, I’d recommend setting up two registries if you do want to do a honeymoon registry.  Give people options since there are some strong opinions against honeymoon registries, and others who are neutral or in favor.

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