(Closed) Do we wait? Any thoughts appreciated.

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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306 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I think you should go for it! Especially if your wedding will be done and over with well in advance of theirs, and wont be as big as theirs-I think it’s fine. 🙂

Post # 19
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Busy bee

@givemecouture:  I say go ahead…totally different weddings and everyone will be happy for all of you

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@givemecouture:  Oh, my I didn’t see this until now– I’ve been thinking of you lately, after having read some of your story in the past.

I think you and he should absolutely get engaged today (NYE) or tomorrow! If both of you have been, separately, so agonized over not being able to get engaged yet, it needs to happen! 

And if you get married this spring, it will definitely NOT steal your brother and his fiancee’s wedding spotlight.

Good luck– I hope you and your SO are engaged by tomorrow! Or at least sometime in the next month or so!

 

 

Post # 21
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh this is a tough situation and I can totally get how you’d feel a little (or a lot!) angsty about the whole thing.  It’s kind of you to be so considerate of other’s feelings… your brother’s, your boyfriend’s, and your soon to be sister in law’s.  

I think you and your boyfriend have to do what’s best for you!  Yes, it’s a second marriage, but it’s still SPECIAL and a big deal!  I say go ahead and do what feels right for both of you, and your family will hopefully be excited and supportive no matter what you decide!

Maybe you’ll be back here tomorrow with some exciting news!

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@givemecouture:  Don’t wait 🙂 Families with multiple siblings around the same age sometimes get engaged/married in close proximity to each other. It’s just natural.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Personally, I don’t believe in “stealing someone else’s thunder” when it comes to engagements, weddings, babies, etc.  

If I were your bf, I would have proposed as planned on Christmas Eve.   

Post # 24
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Sugar bee

Don’t wait! There’s no point in it. You gave them a few days (almost a week at this point) to bask in the attention; now it’s your turn for a little spotlight. Get engaged!!

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Don’t wait. I am from a huge family and all this ‘thunder’ stuff doesn’t fly. I have a cousin getting married tomorrow and another the week after. Nobody cares about this stuff and I find it odd when people feel like engagement needs to be a spotlight thing. Get engaged! You can plan together 🙂

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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@givemecouture:  OOOH, GOOD! I’m so glad to see some good news from you! And congrats on the new job!

An elopement in Hawaii sounds like a wonderful idea! Have fun looking for a dress! Perhaps try looking for white dresses (if you want a white dress) from non-wedding retailers? Or look for sample sales. 

Good luck!

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