(Closed) Do what makes us happy or our family?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Why can’t you do both? Go get married where you want, come home and have a family gathering/reception for the family?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

Easy. 

Do what makes you both happy.

I am not yet engaged but we are planning on having our wedding back home, as I have always dreamed of the traditional ‘big, white wedding’ – though lately I’ve been considering getting married back in the UK so my grandparents can attend, though that may mean FI-to-be’s grandparents cannot, so we’ll have to weigh up the pros/cons closer to the date.

The reason I’m telling you this, is that once we make our decision where to have our wedding everyone just has to deal with it. That may sound bitchy or selfish, but our wedding should be what we dream of, not how everybody else thinks it should be (granted the reasons that will influence our decision are a bit more delicate then yours).

I also believe that if your friends and family truly love you and want you to be happy, even though they may be disappointed, they will respect your decision. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

No problem. 

The only other piece of advice I would offer is that once you are sure of your decision, have a reason in place or a sentence you can always refer back to when/if people question why, or argue their point.

Not 100% sure how to word it, but I think having something to say, which is polite but firm will make everything a lot easier.

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